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• Ever since i've joined social network sites, i've been kinda self obssessed with being "sociable". i used to have no problem before. talking with ppl was a natural thing forr me. But now its the only thing on my mind. i listen to other ppls conversations and try to be like them. I try so hard, i think ppl have noticed. many people don't want to be my friends because of this, and sometimes i stay away from people because i'm scared that they find me annoying. most conversations in a group i would say a little bit. I don't like being alone to chat with someone else because i know that what i "learned" or percieved as "good" chat was in fact something i wish i never started with. I look at past emails with my friends and sometimes i don't even believe that i wrote what i did. whenever i speak to someone all i can think of is to b funny. I feel like because i've become so obsessed i don't feel natural anymore. i feel like i copy other people's acions when they talk to me so that they like me. i feel like i just say what ppl wanna hear. i can never have a proper conversation with someone since all i can think of is what to say, or wish i could have a decent conversation. i usually say everything at once and then there's not much to talk about. or i don't say enough and somehow manage to kill conversations. I avoid people, even my friends, because im scared of talking with them because im scared that things are akward between us. i don't go out much and don't like socialising. sometimes i wish i could erase people's perceptions about me for all the try hard behaviour i had in the past, and all the weird things i said because i thought it would make them laugh. i went into college hoping to make some new friends but i dont speak to anyone in my classes because i don't think anyone wants to speak to me. i have no life, so nothing to talk about, plus the conversations ive had with them ended bad. i try not to but i think ppl notice that i look miserbable all the time since i look down. i don't mean to, sometimes i just dont wanna face people. i even missed college a lot of times and had to catch up hard. the actualy 3 friends that i have now that i talk to i try really hard not to mess up. i feel fake sometimes because i put up this front that im happy, everything's fine. they're good friends who've been there to help me with school and invited me to things. sometimes when i talk to my friends online, it takes me a while befor i become my normal self and feel at ease with myself. then i start thinking about it then im back to my akward self again. please someone help me. what can i do to get these thoughts out of my head and return to a normal person. my life is slowly going down the drain because of this. college, friendships etc. thanks in advance, and sorry for the long story. im just glad i can finally get it off my chest.

• Answer:

  You just gotta be yourself, everyone, including me, has wanted to be like someone else and maybe even gone a little overboard with it. Everyone has lots of redeemable qualities, and I guarantee that if you just be you your gonna find plenty of people that like you.