How to be more outgoing or friendly?

HOW TO BE MORE OUTGOING!!!? PLEASE ANSWER! 10 POINTS!?

• So I am kind of shy in school. I used to be in like 7th grade super super shy where I would just sit at my desk and not say a word. My teacher even called me mute. But now in 9th grade I got a little bit better at being more outgoing. I am in a Resource Room for my World History class, and I know all of the people in that class so I am really comfortable talking to them. That class, computers and gym class are the classes I feel comfortable talking in because my best friend is in all 3 of those classes, and so I basically just talk to her. But my other class which is Study Skills, I have no friends in there, but I know a couple of my Freshmen classmates in there, but I don't normally talk to them. So I am always quiet in that class. But in my History class, my friend, Katie, is really really outgoing. She will talk to anybody. She just randomly gets in peoples conversations and talks to them. Like, she just randomly talks to guys in my gym class. But anyways, she has a lot of guys after her. But I am not trying to be mean, but there's a lower class for people who aren't that smart, and the teachers name is Mrs. Wyman... We'll anyways, a lot of the people who like her are in that class. But there is this guy named Joey in my gym class who is basically obsessed with Katie. He follows us around in the lunch room and talks to her every time and he goes up to her and starts smiling and talking to her and stuff, and sometimes he ignores me. But I am outgoing when I am around him too. Like, I try to get in there conversations and make jokes. Like, this one time, I told him that he probably has GPS of Katie and stuff, and everytime he is about to come up to us, I tell Katie to start going, "Beep, Beep, Beep" and get louder everytime he comes closer and he was laughing about that. And yeah, I joke around with him sometimes, and he talks to me sometimes, like he said hi to me a couple of times. But if Katie was absent at school, he would just go his own way and not follow me around, he would go to the Ice Cream Shop that we have at our school, and talk to the kids at Wyman's class who work there. But he literally just follows me and Katie around every time he see's her. But I feel invisible because I am just as outgoing as Katie, but he still has a huge crush on her. He might have a little crush on me, but not as big as a crush like Katie. But I am not trying to put Katie down because I love her as a friend, but she is not very good looking at all. She recently cut off her hair which doesn't look very good on her, every time I see her when I look at her teeth, her teeth are always yellow, She eats like a slob, she doesn't really dress cutely, she just mainly throws on t-shirts, but sometimes where's cute clothes... I just don't think she's that good looking. I looked at her teeth, and they were all red because she had just eaten a Slushy. She just doesn't really look that clean... I feel invisible because I try my hardest to look my best and I do my best to clean myself up and make myself look pretty... I brush my teeth every single day, I wear cute clothes, I wear make-up, I have good hygiene... I shave my legs when they get hairy, I take showers often, I wash my face to get a rid of my acne.. I just try to look good, but I guess it's not working... I always think that I have to dress kind of slutty-ish to get guys attention. Like today I wore really cute short shorts and a cute tank-top and a pink sweatshirt, and really cute black boots, and I felt really adorable. But I always feel like I have to dress like that to get attention from guys. But, I don't think any guy gives a sh!t about me. I feel like no guy would ever like me. I feel like Katie will get married before me because she has a ton of guys after her. Again, I don't mean to put Katie down in any way, but I am much more prettier then her, and I take care of myself and care how I look, but still I don't get attention. Guys in my History class always talks to Katie. One day Katie and I were sitting at our table in History class, and this guy in my class randomly comes up to Katie and starts telling her about what happened with the teacher or whatever, and he just ignores me and goes right up to Katie. That really makes me upset. I hate looking at girlfriends and boyfriends who go around the hallway holding hands, and watching this girl in my Study Skills class who is not very pretty either, but very outgoing, get hitted on by guys. This one guy even told her that she has nice legs because she was also wearing short shorts... But I am so a sick of how I am kind of shy. Except, my problem might be that I am shy in my Study Skills class. The teacher splits the girls and guys up in two rooms, except 4 or 5 guys come to the girls room with us, but everyone is always talking in that class when the teacher is in the other room. Everyone is talking except for me... It sucks! I want to be outg

• Answer:

  hey im shy too but 1000 timess worse than you.. i know it sucks but dont feel bad if people dont talk to you. how comfortable people feel talking to you has completely to do with your personality. if youre shy peronality, people find it harder to feel at ease with you. thats just reality. BUT IT SHOULDNT MATTER!! Work on trying to be more relaxed around people. thats a first step. second step i STOP COMPARING WITH YOUR FRIEND! she might be more outgoing, and you might be prettier, but neither of you are better than the other. be happy with the way you are.