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I feel like i'm a loser, how do i learn to accept who I am and love myself?

  • Im 17 years old and in a few months I who would be graduating from high school. I have somehow realized that I'm now a loser. I felt like I wasted all my High-school opportunities ,which apparently should be one of my best years of my life because: 1. I’ve never accomplished anything in my life ( involve in competitions,sports,debate) 2. Never had a girlfriend 3. Hard to socialize with other people becuz I don't interact much With people .they find me boring. I met a lot of new people but failed to be friends with and stay connected with in other words i'm a quiet person. 5. Not active in sports/extra curricular activities. 6. I’m an introvert. Basically, I’m a loser. I’m the kind of guy who goes home after school and be on the computer and watch tv the whole day. While others would go hang-out/ play football /dating/ be out-going n have fun. I have a lot of friends, but as a person I find it hard to interact with them (to talk, be friendly, be funny and energetic) although I tried soo hard to be more likable and out-going. Im a desent looking person and I have no problems with school-work and stuff. My english teacher once told me to always love myself and stay true to myself and not be someone else. But my problem is that I don’t feel happy when I’m being myself. I feel different from others…I feel as if they regard me as a "boring-no life" kind of person.i feel like most of my friends are better than me. but it doesn’t matter now anyways……My question now is..What can I do to make the most out of the rest of this year? to leave my school with a smile on my face and have unforgettable memories that I would bring along with me as I enter college.I want people to recognize me when I visit my school in the future and be like “wow,I remember this guy..he was awesome”.

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    Most people don't get these opportunities until college. If you are going to a four year college, THAT is where you can accomplish something, not in high school. You WILL get a girlfriend in college. Try to open up your personality a bit, even if your a shy guy, try your best. Sports aren't necessary for a successful lifetime. Don't call yourself a loser, it will only make things worse. Just think of it this way. Your taking life slow, so right now, it's not ending, it's beginning for you.

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You're not a loser for one major reason - you've seen the light. You can change and you life can be something really special. You're just beginning, and a long way from the end.

JanStolz

sounds like you described me to a tee at that age,a lack of drive may be the culprit,it's probally too late to become the awesome guy that people will remember from school,the best thing to do is realize people with interactive personalities will interact and be more popular,but they have quirks and shortfalls in other areas,basically if you are a loser than every one is a loser,nobody is above you,it may be best to concentrate on the big picture,your future,instead of how you would be remembered when you were a teenager, so here goes- #1. you have a hugh amount of time to find something that interests you to do something with your life, #2. girls are a whole lot easier to get than you might imagine,if you are a perfectionist you are probally thinking of holding out for the perfect girl to spend eternity with,try interacting and practicing your interactions with girls even if theres no real attraction,so you can see what works and what doesnt work,just dont lead them on telling them you want a long term or serious relation ship,most girls are more emotional and require a lot of attention, #3. inter acting with people does not have to be broad,if you focus on interacting with people who you feel comfortable interacting with or people who you have some use for,ie- an employer,that would be enough of an interaction, #5. not every one is interested in sports,for me it was a use less and time wasting activity that could be better spent on other activities,if you want to build up your body do weights or activities or employment that involves a lot of lifting, #6. being an introvert is cool,if any one judges you for that it is people you are better off not interacting with anyways, so the bottom line is stop putting so much emphasis on how others see you,when you look back on it you will wonder why you put so much value on that, time usually puts things in their proper places

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