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What can we do to help us forget about what happened?

• My girlfriend was raped recently. We've already informed police. Her parents think we did this together no matter how much we try to convince them otherwise. They don't trust me and won't let me anywhere near their daughter anymore. I have to sneak into her house now just to talk to her. At school we can only talk for a few minutes because we only share one class and it's with a teacher that does not let us talk during class. When I first got a call from her and she told me she was just raped. I couldn't believe what I was hearing! She sounded hurt, and scared and I wouldn't blame her! When my parents and I (I'm only 15, so I can't drive on my own yet) came to pick her up and carry her home, she was balled up, shivering and crying. I gave her my jacket and a towel to keep her warm and cover her up and we helped her back to the car. She looked so helpless and scared. I couldn't stand to see her like this. She didn't even crack a smile when I did this because she was just too terrified. That moment sparked nightmares for me and I can't even imagine what these nights are like for her. I wish I could be there for her 24-7. She doesn't deserve this and I feel like it's partially my fault for not being there to protect her. In my nightmares, I'm bound, gagged, and thrown to the side like some piece of trash and am forced to watch as the man has his way with the girl I love. I usually wake up in tears and I can't shed the thought of her screaming for help and nobody coming to save her. It definitely doesn't help when I think of how terrible her nightmares must be. Is there anything we could do to help us get our mind off of what happened?

• Answer:

  the biggest thing she needs is time. she needs you to be there by her side(when you can...the parents make this hard) and one of the most important things, dont do anything sexual with her for a long time, even making out, just dont do it, until she is ready.(im saying this because you guys are teenagers xD) also at first maybe try talking about something other then that, she is in shock, and even though the rape is the biggest thing on her mind, she may not want to talk about it with you yet. so just wait till she is ready and let her know you are there. i am very sorry for what happened, what happened to her just now has changed this poor girls life and sex life for the rest of her life.