How can I build my confidence and self esteem?

I would suggest to just be who you are and just let it happen. Don't just let yourself go, but know who you are and be happy with it. If you do something awkward, then thats just you and a lot of people will probably find it to be funny/cute. Life is much better once you can get past trying to please everyone and just being happy and confident with yourself. Also, being confident will help how people see you, because its not always what you do, but how you do it. My suggestion would be to find friends that you really get along with well, which it sounds like you have, be yourself (if you aren't a talkative person in a larger group, then thats who you are, you don't have to change/worry about that) and be confident with who you are. It also helps to pull yourself back from a situation to try to see it for what it is, before you go diving into it.

It is normal to be more outgoing when you are around friends and family because you are more familiar with them. If your low self confidence and esteem are holding you back and it's ruining your life, that is not good. Maybe you could join a group online and find people who have problems socializing. Look for a shy or social anxiety group. I wrote an article with a few tips on how to increase your self confidence. You can read it if you'd like. Here is the link: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1832573/tips_on_improving_your_self_confidence.html Good Luck! Hope things work out!

You are friendly and happy with your family and friends.That means you are social and you can mix up with people as and when you know them better.This is normal with many people. Try talking to people on general topics like climate . As and when the conversation proceeds you may continue further. There is no point in feeling shy . People are surely going to appreciate your good nature and be friendly with you.

Just say to yourself, that you are in no way inferior to the people whom you talk to people whom you don't know.... They are just normal people and say to yourself that you will do just fine... Confidence has a direct relationship with self esteem, if you increase your self esteem, then your confidence level also increases... Self esteem can only be gained, if you go out there talk to them and prove to yourself that you are good with people whom you don't know.. This will really boost your self esteem and hence your confidence,.. so go out there and speak out, .. good luck..

I have the exact same question. I have also had a really bad problem with self-confidence since my early teens, and my condition is exactly like what you described. It is also ruining my life. Some people tell me that I can try to make myself look prettier because a nice appearance usually helps to boost self-confidence. I will try that, but I think my problem goes deeper than that. Some people suggest that I make a list of things that I like about myself. I haven't done that, but I think it will only have a minimal effect. I don't know what to do either.. because it's not like I can just "decide" to be confident all of a sudden, you know? I think for now, I will just continue to live my life and try to understand myself better and start accepting myself. I don't know how to do it, but I know that I have to do it, so I am just going to try my best everyday. I really wish you all the best! I completely understand what you are going through... I hope one day we will both learn to love ourselves and be confident! :)

Its ok to be who i am i can learn to love myself, say it and mean it. Say only positive affirmations about yourself throughout the day... Probably it s a minor self confidence problem which will go if realise how good you are.

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that happens when you are truley happy with who you are.

Relax We all want to become more confident and feel good about ourselves so we can live our very best life. Here are some ways to gain confidence and raise self-esteem: 1. Do something that requires a decision and a follow-through. Have you been putting off writing that letter to aunt Martha? Is there a friend you’ve been meaning to call? Wash the car, tidy the garden or clean the house. You’ll gain confidence by setting goals (even small ones) and following through on them. 2. Enjoy something you do well. Do you have any hobbies or sports that you enjoy playing? Some things like going swimming, painting or writing can hold your attention and get you into a state of ‘flow’. While you are in the flow you forget about everything else. Afterwards, you’ll feel competent and capable. It’s a great way to boost your self-esteem. If you don’t have any particular hobbies or pastimes that you enjoy make an effort to try something you’ve always wanted to try. Picture yourself doing it, and then give it a try! It doesn’t have to be something big - it can be as simple as joining a walking club. You’ll find that you are more centered and happier if you do something that puts you in that flow at least once a week. 3. Shift the focus. It’s been shown that low self-esteem develops hand-in-hand with individuals who put too much focus on themselves. You can gain confidence by doing something that focuses on someone else or even something else. You’ll find that when you are in a situation where you are meeting new people, you immediately become less nervous when you focus on the person you are meeting. At the end of the day, you’ve interacted with others and will notice that you feel much lighter. 4. Relax, already! Learning to become more relaxed is a great life enhancer. People who are more relaxed have fewer problems with their memories and are more likely to take the bumps in the road of life in stride. The practice of meditation has gained popularity for this reason. You might want to look into Tai Chi, which involves physical relaxation techniques. Whatever method you decide on, take relaxation seriously. The benefits are just too great to ignore. If you’ve never considered relaxation important, think of it this way: if you can attend to something that results in feeling good, how can you not gain confidence in your personal abilities? 5. Make a list of everything you’ve ever accomplished. Think small. An accomplishment is an accomplishment! Some things you could put on your list: passed my driver’s test and got my license, scored a goal when I played hockey, managed to save enough money to go on a trip and so on. These are just a few ideas you can use to gain confidence and boost your self-esteem. Use these ideas as a base point and add these things permanently in your life. Keep in mind, people are not born with good self-esteem, most of us have to work at it. It develops from your thinking and the things you do daily to make yourself feel good.