How can I stop being shy and start being myself?

I am Ashley and I am going to try to tell you some exercises that may work. But before that I am going to tell you something. I am nine. I know you think that I am just a kid, but I may change your whole life! When I was younger, I used to feel the same way, but then I got some well thought advice from my mom. She said to me that one time her teacher asked a question and she was too shy to even put up her hand. She told me that that was a mistake that she had made and she wanted to change the fact that she was shy. So she kept on saying to herself "I am not shy, Iam not shy, Iam not shy.I can do this!" and she aked her boss that she have now all kind of questions about her job, got an interview, and got a job! She said that " that was one of the most important choices that I ever made in my life," So you can try to get a doll, practice how you are going to talk to strangers. Or if you don't like dolls, you could draw a person, cut it out, and talk to it if it is a stranger. And you could always breathe in and out ten times and in the ten timesthat you breathe in and out you could think about what you are going to say. I hope this helps you alot and make you be brave.

In my opinion I think you're really a person who likes to have fun, but you make starting a conversation too serious. Lighten up! If you're afraid of saying something totally stupid while talking to someone....say it anyways, and then you won't have anything to be afraid of! You just need to break the ice and try to get to know more people. Don't be afraid to jump right into a group and start talking. Tell yourself you want to be known as the girl who is wild and fun, not shy and withdrawn! You could also practice talking in a big mirror, if it makes you feel better. That way you can know what you look like while you're talking, because part of your shyness is self-consciousness. Trust me, I know exactly what you're going through and these are what helped me. xoxo Dare♥

You sound just like me. I feel the exact same way, only, I've gotten to the point where I accept that this is who I am. I will never be the loud outgoing, girl who yells the loudest - and that's OK. If everyone is yelling, then who will listen? You probably will naturally become a bit more outgoing as you grow older and mature, but in the meantime - set goals for yourself. If you're like me and don't like to speak up in class (if you're still in school, that is) set a goal that says that you have to speak up at least once a day, everyday day, this week. Then next week, say that you have to speak up twice a day, for the entire week, and so on. Also, ask your friends for help, and tell them about your goals. If they know about it, and you know they're gonna ask about it later, you're more likely to stick to it. And probably, they will encourage you, and give you a pat on the back every time you've done it. Don't compare yourself to everyone else - so what if the person sitting next to you keeps speaking up? You are not him, you are different, you are you!! And you shouldn't want to be anyone else.

Dear friend, Very simple. Just few things and start it from this moment. Believe yourself Positive self suggestions Meditation Sit down, close your eyes and do self suggestions that you are power, you are strong, you are everything you want to be. In self suggestions, do not use any negative words or any word you want to get rid from it. like Shy. Don't say that "I am no more Shy person" Say that you are strong and outgoing person, Say that you are full of confident. Do very regular meditation. It will help you to be real human being. Good Luck!

immagine everyone around you naked or taking a poop like any other human being,it's silly but it helps,and when you talk imagine you're talking to your mom or a good friend.

start joining groups. it worked for me!

I was just like you, but i ask my friend to go out , and find me gf. Then after i meet the girl i couldn't speak. i was shocked. but when i think about that i told my friend : IT IS NOT THE GIRLS WHO I AFRAID OF IT IS ME THAT MAKE PROBLEM FOR ME. If you want to know how approach a girl, i will tell you.