How To Develop Our Self Confidence?

What are the factors that lead a person to develop low self esteem and loss of self confidence?

• Why are some people confident and have high self esteem? Why are some people inconfident and have low self esteem? What determines if a person develops a high self esteem or low self esteem? How is self confidence built and is it all in the mind, of what one believes about oneself? Or is one's self image a real reflection of the reality of one's genuine abilities?

• Answer:

  A person develops low self-confidence if they can sense that they are not liked or appreciated by other people. If you try to make friends, for example and get rejected most of the time, you are likely to lose your self-confidence. If you try hard to pass a math test - and fail instead, your self confidence will suffer. I believe one's self image is, in part, a reflection of one's genuine abilities. If whatever you are doing is not being accepted by others, then you are bound to question yourself. What mental health professionals, on the other hand, seem to believe - is that self confidence is all in your head. They think that if you are not confident, that you are showing signs of a pathology of some sort. Without truly examining the negative circumstances you are experiencing in life, they think you should be taking medication or that your thoughts are somehow 'distorted.' When someone is lacking confidence, the first thing to ask is if they are getting more negative (than positive) feedback from others.