Can true love survive cheating? What is true love?

Well love is really an illusion…. …a conditional & controlling, selfish, self-sacrificing emotion. If you really love someone, you need to give them total freedom, to do as they please, because you want her/him to be happy, even if it is at your expense, even if it means she/he has an affair. you should be happy for that person because you love that person and your concern is her/his happiness. The problem is that your ego gets in the way and your feelings get hurt. when things do not go your way. but is that love The only true love is the unconditional love you have for your children but when they grow up, they don't need you anymore so your unconditional love is just wasted on them. Real sad, I know, but it is the truth.

true love it means the person love you in what you are to get you he willing to faced your family no matter what it was so bring confident that he have and mind no one can have you than himself is true love. open relationship like we like someone where we created a decision by understand them than adopt a true understanding that created it onto married someone hurt comes when they dont understand our feeling but is better thn avoid them thn thinking them created stress in our life.

your question evokes much discussion as it is very open. for example WHEN someone cheated matters. at the beginning of the relationship or a few years into it etc. all these factors determine whether someone will give their partner another chance. i believe that if the cheating (regardless of whether it was physical or emotional) was early on in the relationship, then all can be forgiven because it is possible the cheater hadnt fallen in love with their partner fully yet. however if the cheating is far on in the relationship then i dont think that the cheater could really possibly love their partner as much as they should, and then it is up to the partner to decide whether to respect and love themselves enough to leave the relationship,or to forgive their partner and stay with them for all the things they have done right, rather than leave them for the one thing they have done wrong. but again, it is extremely subjective. in open relationships/marriages i dont believe there is true love because people dont even respect themselves. they throw themselves around with anyone just to get off. there is no loyalty or feeling of mutual trust. the only thing you can trust in is that you both are sleeping with other people and having emotional and/or physical affairs. that is not what love is. i dont think we are conditioned to feel hurt when someone cheats. to me thats like saying are we conditioned to feel physical pain when beaten. the very word "cheat" implies an abuse of trust, and i think it is basic human instinct to feel betrayal as a result. the pain will come if you really cared about the person. otherwise, you will only feel betrayal and hurt pride. when you love someone you give them the power to hurt you and trust them not to. cheating breaks this trust and the person will feel lost and have to make a decision about staying or leaving. this has nothing to do with conditioning. as for training to act and feel a certain way, again i think no. we are taught (some of us at least) moral values about respecting other people and the value of honesty in relationships, but these are things that people learn (even if they dont abide by them) as they get older even if they have not been previously taught by parents etc. eg. consider many teenage boys who cheat, grow up and become responsible fathers (tho of course some do continue to cheat and never learn). as for feelings - by their very nature they are instinctual. you dont teach babies to laugh or cry any more than you teach them to feel a certain way about a relationship. our feelings make us unique because no two people feel the exactttt same way about anything/anyone. as for what love is: love is every emotion, tangled together and woven into a delicate web, beautiful and complicated. a web so fragile that it can be brushed away by a stroke of the hand, and yet so strong, that once it has you trapped in it, you will become more and more tangled in it. some people may not even see the web as they go through their garden of life, some may fly into it unexpectedly. and some spend their whole life searching for it..love changes everything, and, since you are a foremost part of your view of everything, it changes you. in love, we are inspired. to become better people, live better lives, and better the lives of others. it transforms the way we see the world, and better ables us to see the beauty in everything and everyone. we can see others more clearly because only now that we have experienced such a love do we truly begin to understand what real loss really is. we fear to lose love, and at the same time, we trust it not to desert us.love can never be broken, only sometimes forgotten.i am in love with my best friend, and we both know we are spending the rest of our lives together. we're building a home together, and we're going to have a beautiful family one day. if there is any such thing as a soulmate, he's mine. he is so much a part of me. i love him for the good and loving person he is, and i love him for the person he is trying his best to be.its not that every day is sunshine. of course we've had our sad times as well. but its only when you put the rain beside the sun that you can see the rainbows. we are every season in one, held within a moment that will last for the rest of our lives. i talk to him about everything i can talk about with anyone else, and everything i cant. we share our deepest fears, because that way we dont have to face them alone. and we share our deepest desires, hopes and dreams so fragile that they may break even when whispered, because that way, the hope grows to fill the both of us. the deepest connection with another human being is recognized in the hearts inability to form words to express it, and in the complete giving of soul and of self.

If it was True Love there would have been No cheating...