How do you figure out what your passion is?

In a relationship, how does one balance passion and stability?

• Am I right about my gf? I dated this woman 5 months ago. A month after we indeed it I met my gf. Very much committed to her. My ex was hitting on me and I was attracted to her. I tried to figure out why I felt so close to her, why we seemed to be on the same page even though we didn't talk for months. She was full of excitement, life... She is a communications major. My gf is more reserved, has more of a monotone. My ex has hope, dreams. Both my gf and I have been through a lot... Its more pain, rational and boring. Seeing that in my ex is uplifting though... My ex is very honest and up front with me. I'm at ease with her. My gf is calculative, everything is processed, then comes out. Lastly, the smile... A smile that depicts hope, dreams, excitement and life is contagious... My gf doesn't really smile much. A lot of times she imitates laughter. Idk, I feel like there is temptation for my ex, especially since she wants me back. So I decided not to talk to her anymore. My point is that while my ex is full of dreams, great to talk to, thats all it is. Although my gf isn't full of dreams or life, she is solid, stable and predictable. In the long run her seriousness will keep us grounded. My ex represents passion, while my gf represents some passion and mostly security and stability. What do you think? I have no intentions of ending my relationship with my gf. She is my sweetheart, my woman. I guess, since we have security, I am trying to figure out how to bring more passion into the mix... something my ex reminded me of. P.s. I had to think about this cuz I felt differently about my ex than my gf and I was curious of why that happened.

• Answer:

  We all want what we don't have. if you're waiting for the perfect woman.....wait some more. Sure, some of us find the ideal mate, but most of us have to compromise on some levels in order to find love at all.