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How to deal with 'mean and difficult colleague to work with' co-worker?

• I have been having difficulties for the past 2 and a half years with my female colleague. She works from head-quarter. I'm part of the company acquired 3 yrs ago and I work from a different site. Initially when I started working with her, I right away felt that she is a bully, and she is quite rude, some people says she is "strong personality". Project manager witnessed the fact we were fighting at the meeting, and I expressed to the project manager that was the most difficult conversation in my entire career. She later called and apologized, so we made it look like we worked things out. But the problem didn't go away, our conflict happened over phone. Conflicts with her happen when 1. She wants to control things that is not done by her, steal credits. 2. She tries to make a point that is not fact based, not substantiated, misleading, speculation based such as " I have a hunch..." 3. She misleads others by opposing things I did that was proven to be working, fact based. 4. She works at the headquarter, she feels more power, I'm part of the acquired company. I find her authoritative tone very irritating. 5. She is not humble when she wants to learn something from me, so I dint feel very enthusiastic about sharing my knowledge, since I also know she loves to steal credits. I also think that her manager knows that she is not capable of doing things she does not have enough knowledge of, so he usually assigns those to me. Obviously that makes her feel humiliated. her manager likes my style of work, appreciate my fact-based, proof-based analysis, and asked my 'actual manager' for my 100% time in this project. There were couple of times she complained about me to her manager, some are misleading. However, till today, I have never made a complain about her to management, though some peers and even her manager witnessed our head-butt conversation. I was visiting her site for a day, and for the first time I had very argumentative meeting with her right in front of her manager. I had to refute several of her unfounded protests against my work, that I found stressful. I have learned to become outspoken just to refute things she says against my work. Head-quarter has a tendency of firing people from my site with lame excuses. What has been saving my 'butt' all these months is my high productivity and hard-work. I find it really stressful. If anybody has similar experience, how they are dealing with their situation, and suggest what I should to keep my job, stay trouble free, and have a better life at work, I'd greatly appreciate that.

• Answer:

  bottom line is you can complain about it and fight it or you can seriously look for another job and leave that conflict behind. there will always be someone somewhere which is going to be a pain in the *** to deal with. have a talk with management and tell them you don't want to deal with her anymore and seriously look for something else. no job is worth it if you can't handle it. I have seen take overs and seen lots of job losses. Guess what everyone got another job somewhere go figure. start looking now before it too late and let the company take a loss of you or fight to keep you. do you really want to keep working for a company that knows it has a problem person and keeps them rather than someone who is really worth it? seriously have seen it too many times start looking now and stay on top