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Please help is he trying to get my kids and just using me please opinions?

• Ok I am in a long distant relationship for 4 yrs he lives in France me in usa he come here 3 months out of a year to visit. We have 2 kids together small kids. Ok for the past year we have been fighting a lot his last visit was the worst. I just had a baby and was pregnant again he was calling me fat and ugly and that he was not gonna sleep with me cause i was pregnant. The time he was here he beat me kicked me and spit on me. The whole 3 months was bad so he goes home and we chat every day sometimes all day. He is 27 lives at home with parents till he finishes school well lately he has been avoiding me we spend less time together but on weekends he goes out with his friends does not come home til 3 or 4 in the morning. I ask where has he been he said with his friends at a restaurant. I ask him to spend time with me some weekends cause we spend most of our time weekdays and sundays. Well we have been fighting heavy for a while and one day we were phoning each other I asked should we end it he says something to this effect you keep emailing me back. And when we fight i have to contact him 2 or 3 days later. He is asking me to help him get citizenship for the kids in his country so they can hae dual citizen ship. He has always said he wanted to live in the usa but now he has changed his mind. I asked to come over there to live he gets all nervous. I could be losing my job soon he wants us to move in with him and his parents I am like wth? I asked him do you want to end this right then he says no he wants to work it out. Also sometimes when we argue he says I am only with you for the kids. Then when he cools down he says I don't mean those things. Another question is he trying to get the kids citizenship to his country to keep them over there? And send me home? Am I slow here please give your opinions on this please.

• Answer:

  If he beat you, the relationship is in the shitter because he's not the kind of guy who creates good relationships. You need to leave him.