How do I tell my very strict violin teacher and my strict Asian parents I want to stop violin?

I'd start first with your Asian Juilliard Graduate teacher and ask him if he likes music at all, or if he too was a victim of this cultural dynamic, if he is happy with teaching kids instead of playing in a string quartet, orchestra, or as a soloist. Ask him too, if any of those performance goals were ever part of the reason he studied violin, or if he is there because he followed duty rather than any personal interest of his own. Ask him if he went through all that just to please his parents. Ask yourself if you are interested in music or playing music at all, because if it is a matter of discipline, there are dozens of other disciplines you can learn which will be more practical... maths, science, etc. Ask yourself if you are interested in music and perhaps would like to play another instrument instead, including a non-western instrument and non-western music: an interest in wanting to learn how to play the Shakuhachi and traditional classical Japanese music might startle both you and your parents. The orchestras of the western world are rather chock-a-block filled with the accurate, dull and dutiful Asian female violin player, as witnessed in many a western symphony string section. Behind closed doors, they are no glory for the pride of the Japanese or their culture, they are thought of as accurate and dull players who are partially responsible for the current lackluster sound and energy of formerly more dynamic western orchestras. [There, that dirty little politically incorrect yet truthful statement is out.] There are great and passionate Asian players of western classical music, BTW, but almost none of them are those dutiful daughters now sitting in the string sections of many of the west's major orchestras. Dutiful playing is the death of vitality of any kind of music, east or west. You will have to figure out some presentation where you make it clear you understand the value of discipline - there, your parents, Asian or other, are correct - there is much of any part of life, including work we may love to do, which is just grunt-work, unpleasant, not fun. Everyone needs discipline or there would be no continuing with one pursuit, or much success at anything. Best regards.

If you don't like your teacher so much why don't you just find a new one?

ur asian. u will have do learn to like it

That's a shame. As the problems seems to be the teacher not the instrument, why don't you consider switching violin teachers? Or talk personally to your violin teacher and just tell him how you feel (politely!) and say that you enjoy violin and appreciate him, but that lately all the pressure, has made you want to quit. Or you could be a good kid, and just practice more and procrastinate less :) Your choice.

It seems like your problem may be the teacher rather than the violin. I would start by asking your parents if you could take lessons from a different teacher. Explain to them the problem with the teacher and tell them you would like to switch to a different teacher. You can tell them that this treatment is making you want to quit, so you want to try switching teachers in hopes of that desire going away, and tell your parents that a nurturing teacher will get you further on the violin than a Julliard graduate who yells and screams at you. No teacher should treat students that way. You might find that if you get a nicer teacher you no longer want to quit taking lessons. But if your parents won't let you get a new teacher you may want to work a little harder and see if that makes your teacher kinder to you.