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The management at my job is hostile and rude. (restaurant)?

• The management at my work is backwards. This one manager,in general...we'll call him Jim. This morning my manager, Jim, came in with the determination to "make one of the girls cry". he does this a lot and calls us "bitches". tells us "get to work you lazy pieces of sh*t" and rambles on about how hes "so sick of this crap" "hes gotta buckle down!" Any complaint you can think of,he blurts it. With a lot of the F word thrown in between. He acts like hes just kidding and puts a sarcastic tone in his voice,but really I think he really means it deep down. He decided he was going to make me "cry" today and proceeded to mess with me a majority of the morning,before opening,until I had it and he officially put me in a bad mood. I snapped,gave him an attitude and he backed off,I guesss. I did my best to ignore it and laugh it off. If I did laugh and try to keep a smile on my face he'd say something like "what the fuhk are you laughing at?!" regardless, this is my manager. I'm a server,I work in a restaurant and if you've ever worked in a restaurant you'd understand you can get away with a lot of horse play and bad language. Later on that day, I got written up. The first table of the day got sat. I went and greeted them and this man told me he cant even tell me what he wants to drink because the music is so loud he cant even think. I said, I'll get my manager to turn it down for you. Walked away, and told my manager...whose been messing with me all morning...table 35 wants the music louder! as a joke,of course. sense we seem to be just joking this fine morning. I tell him later, like 30 seconds "later" they want the music turned down and its too loud for him. I was joking. He didnt find it funny. He calls for a shift meeting and doesnt bother to turn the music down. one minute later,during the meeting the tables walks out. this was all within two minutes. this table didn't even give us a chance to turn it down. they got up,yelled at the hostess and left. I was written up and now im a little weary I may loss my job,over something so silly. I dont know what to tell my general manager besides it was a joke gone bad and a few very cranky people who came to dine at the fine establishment, Applebees. I just dont understand why my manager can screw with his employees all day and nothing comes of it and then someone does it back and now im about to lose my job. I've been there for a year. I work very very hard. I've called out three times in the past 450 days i've been there. I told him, if you write me up I'll most likely lose my job here. He told me "I hope you do". Hes very hostile. I dont know what to tell my general manager. I cant afford to lose my job,over something so silly. Any advice? (besides getting a new job...i'm on it.)

• Answer:

  Three things: 1) Speak w/ your restaurants current manager and have him/her put a stop to this. 2) Call your corporate HQ and complain to them. 3) Get another job because things aren't likely to change.