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I am a male 14 year old, and I am unsure as to whether or not I received what could be labelled sexual abuse.?

  • I am a male 14 year old, and I am unsure as to whether or not I received what could be considered sexual abuse in my younger years.  When I was  about 7, I had a friend that was a year and a bit older than me. One day, when I was at his house, he asked me to suck his d**k. He told me this was sex, and normal, but must be kept secret. I believed him, and we continued to have "sex" for a year. I didn't know any better and was alright with it. Then we stopped hanging out, and my "sex" life stopped. When I was about 9-10, I discovered what sex really was, and then realised what I had been doing with my friend was homosexual. I felt shamed, and like a disgusting, filthy being. Without offending any homosexuals out there, I felt ill from the realisation of what I had been doing. I hated myself for it, and suffered from countless sleepless nights. I didn't want to be gay, but I had participated in the most homosexual act possible so many times. I felt violated, and outcast, although from the outside I would seem perfectly fine. It seems to me that I lost my virginity through a gay "relationship", and I cannot put these memories to rest. I inflict harm on myself regularly, because of this and being bullied. I am not bullied for being "gay", I have never ever told anyone what I have done. I am straight, and attracted to females, and am now repulsed by the idea of gay sex. I never saw my friend again, until a year ago, and he seemed fine. I'm not. All I want to know is if this is considered sexual abuse. I am unsure because I remembering being ok with having "sex", until I realised what I was really doing.  Please answer my question, and don't give me any advice. I just need to know if I am overreacting or not.

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    Get over it! Long time ago..didn't u jus ask what the liquid CRAP waz in the shower that felt so good 2ya? Sean Hoques Member since: April 05, 2012 I'm psychic_no one believes me!

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yes it was sexual abuse but i wouldent exactly blame it on your "friend" you should check his family and more importantly the mental health of him and his family.. if he did this full knowingly then he's really ****** up somewhere

demalition900

I don't think it was abuse. I think it was kid stuff. But you need some help getting rid of the feelings and memories.....counseling would help a lot. You did not lose your virginity until you had intercourse w/a girl or a guy. What you did was not intercourse...just silly stuff...that a lot of 8 yr olds do.

Jeanne

Your reaction to what happened is really common. While all children are curious about bodies and many engage in sex play, what happened to you went beyond this. It doesn't matter why the other boy did this, the issue now is that you're now reacting badly to it. Below is some information that I hope answers some of your questions and links to where to get more info and help. Straight or gay? For heterosexual men, sexual assault almost always causes some confusion or questioning about their sexuality. Since many people believe that only gay men are sexually assaulted, a heterosexual survivor may begin to believe that he must be gay or that he will become gay. Furthermore, perpetrators often accuse their victims of enjoying the sexual assault, leading some survivors to question their own experiences. In fact, being sexually assaulted has nothing to do with sexual orientation, past, present or future. People do not "become gay" as a result of being sexually assaulted. More on this http://www.secasa.com.au/index.php/survivors/10/233 Why am I ashamed? All kids who have been assaulted feel ashamed. It's a horrible feeling and affects every aspect of your life. You fear people knowing because you think they will judge you or react differently to you. You may feel disgusted or disgusting and expect other people to be disgusted too. The only disgusting person is the offender. What THEY did was disgusting not what you did. Some people who do not understand may react badly but that is their problem not yours. The shame is made worse because it involves sexual matters which are taboo in our society but sexual assault is not the same as sex which happens between two people who agree to have sexual contact. More on this http://www.secasa.com.au/index.php/survivors/10/171/4 How do I get past this? The only way for children to genuinely put the assault behind them is when they resolve the feelings associated with their trauma. They need to achieve an understanding of why it happened and why it happened to them. Children also need to know that all the feelings they have are normal. More on this http://www.secasa.com.au/index.php/survivors/5/43 If you think talking to someone would help here are numbers of rape crisis centres. Ask to speak with the duty worker or use the online chat facilities. I'm putting in some websites that you might find useful for information about sexual assault. Pandy's is an online forum for survivors of sexual assault. In Victoria ring 1800 806 292 Australia wide 1800RESPECT, 1800 737 732 Kids helpline 1800 55 1800 Lifeline 13 11 14 UK 0845 4647 Ireland 1800 778 888 USA 1800 656 HOPE 1 in 3 young women and 1 in 6 young men experience sexual assault before the age of 18. You are not alone, do not be afraid to seek help.

Wendy S

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