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Does anyone homeschool their children?

Depressed, Tired, & Bored Homeschool Mom!?

  • I'm a homeschool mom who has been homeschooling 3 children for two years. Now with a new child (a 19 month old) it feels as if my life is wasting away. The first two years I was at home with my children while my husband worked a full-time job. When he was not working he was out in the community doing community work or helping other people in their non-profit organizations. From mayors to council people, to business people...I would be at home while he will be out at different functions, sometimes on tv! Well when he retired from his job I thought...GREAT! he will be at home helping me with the children...going on "outings", and traveling. NOPE!!!! He is gone before I got up in the morning...out socializing...meeting people...while I am at home with the children! I am really depressed and feel as if HE is living his life while I am at home...slowly losing myself. The past two weeks I have been in the bed sick, depressed, with migraines and he doesn't ask what's wrong...or if I am okay...or if I need a break from the children! We have one car and I only get out when I do grocery shopping. I don't have any friends, anyone I can relate to...or someone I can talk to who understands. I have went through depression before...like last year...but this time it is really BAD. I even imagine just packing my stuff and leaving him with the children. Our relationship is BORING...we don't do anything or go anywhere together. And oh yeah...when he is at home he's either on the stupid phone or in front of the tv asleep. I have soooo much anger towards my husband because he does not care and as long as I am at home with the children, cooking, cleaning, teaching, disciplining, he is okay as long as he can go and live his life. I've talked to him many times about my feelings and he doesn't say a word. Is anyone experienced this? What should I do? Why am I so darn angry?

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    You are definitely angry if that is all that you are thinking about all day. I've been there, I have done that! Before All of this you would've had to guard your heart as to protect from anything that is not of God. For me over the past few years, I've learned from a experience alot like yours. And even now, I have to be cautious not to let the pain of being offended get it me, everytime my husband or any other person hurts my feelings. Resentment and unforgiveness can and will cause you problems. People who are angry alot may have high blood pressure, Some people are sad and have low self-esteem which may bring with it depression and unhappiness. Please get into the word of God and begin to know and understand God for yourself. He'll take into "His secret place" (where no one can touch you it seems:-) as you begin to have a relationship with Him. Just the other day I was having a hard time, and sometimes I want to get away, but then I am strengthened by some scripture like, "those that wait upon the Lord, He shall Renew their strength and they shall mount up with wings as eagles and they shall walk an not faint." You are near the place of fainting, but draw near to God and that feeling will be demolished like instantly:-) Really! Please write back...I know EXACTLY what you mean, and have examples just like what you have said. But you can have the victory without being "defeated" or "beaten" down I your mind, your will, and emotions. I'd really like to help...I see this as a plea for help...

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Communicate. Husbands can be completely oblivious and it has nothing to do with whether they care or not. If you never tell him how you're feeling, he will never know. So get a babysitter, go somewhere quiet to talk, and talk. Do it as calmly as possible. Don't throw around blame or anger. Just tell him exactly what you need from him. Before this talk, it might be a good idea to really re-evaluate your decision to homeschool. Think about why you are doing it, how you think it's going, and if it is worth what you're giving up. Just as public school is not for everyone, homeschooling is not for everyone. If you want to continue on, then come up with a plan to make it work for you. Find a hobby, find some friends, or even a part time job, and get out on a regular basis. Discuss all of this with your husband until you come up with a compromise that everyone can live with.

Melpomene

My sister in law gave me some great advice, I'm at college and stopped taking time for myself, but your a mom with that many kids to watch I couldn't imagine how time consuming it must be, I think the most important thing is to start getting better sleep, lack of sleep can lead to depression and you feel like your lifespan wasting away but it really isn't teaching kids is just another chapter in your life, but you must always stay strong, because your setting an example for them :) always do something fun for yourself, even if its simply taking a walk or getting a babysitter to watch them, sometimes if your inside too much that'll get to you, don't focus on it too much, and keep your mind busy

Jenny

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