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• Please take the time and patience to read everything before you answer. Thank you. :) I am a 25 year old male. My parents got divorced, when I was about 10 or 11 years old. Since my parents got divorced, my older sister and I haven't had a strong connection with my Dad's side of the family. In fact, some members of his family actually blame my sister and me for our parents' divorce. My sister and me barely see our father-maybe once or twice a year, even though we live in the same state as him (he lives about a 25 minute drive from where I live). His "new" wife does not like my sister nor me, even though she barely knows us. I know she doesn't like us, because my Dad had even admitted to me one time, when I had seen him. Whenever we do see our Dad (which isn't very much), he is never with his wife. One time, his wife found out, that, he had seen my sister and me when she was gone out of the country, and she became very angry at him. She doesn't want him to see my sister and me. Since I have turned 18 years old, my Dad has provided no financial support whatsoever to me (nor to my older sister). He has not provided any money to me to help me pay for my college tuition, no money support for miscellaneous expenses, etc. I asked him one time if he could provide just a "little" financial support for my college expenses, and he replied back, saying: "Well, I don't want to" and "Your Mom divorced me...It's not my responsibility anymore to help pay for you guys". My Mother has provided complete financial support for my sister and me, including for college expenses. My mother has done so much for me, that I am very, very thankful to her. She is a great mother. My sister has recently became re-connected with one of our cousins. She is around 20 years old, I think. She is my Dad's brother's daughter. After a recent situation, I became very furious with my Dad. I had sent him an email stating, that, I was upset for the fact, that he has provided no financial support whatsoever for my sister and me. I had also forwarded the email to two of my cousins-one being a 21 year old male, and the other a 20 year old female (the same female that I had mentioned previously). The reason why I had forwarded the email to both of my cousins is, that, because, I was seeking a little bit of "non-physical" revenge against my Dad, and I wanted my Dad's family members to see how bad of a person he really is. Later, I tried to email my 20 year old female cousin, this time with the intention to "reconnect" with her. I had sent her several emails, writing things, such as: "Hey (her name), how are you? How is college going?". She never replied back. My older sister, since she had already re-connected with her, tried to find out from her why she was ignoring my emails. My cousin had responded to her messages, stating, that, she didn't want to get in the "middle" of the argument between my Dad and me, and didn't want to get involved in anything that wasn't her business. My sister then explained to her, that, I was just trying to "re-connect" with her, since I hadn't spoken to her for about 13-14 years (since she was very little), and that I had missed her a lot. She then told my sister, that, she would email me back some time in the future, most probably within a couple days. She never sent me an email. I finally decided to send her an email, in which she then responded to. I then responded to her email, but she never responded back this time. I had sent several messages to her phone number, but she still wasn't responding back. I finally had sent her another text message, asking her whether or not she was purposely ignoring my text messages. She had responded back, saying: "No, I am not mad at you. I have been really busy with school and stuff, and you need to understand that. I just need some time to respond back, that's all". She didn't even say "hi", or any similar greeting to me. She has never responded back, even once, since the day she had sent me that text message. She has talked to my older sister several times since then, via text message and, possibly even maybe through talking on cell phone. My sister had made plans to meet her for lunch in a little over a week from now. To be honest, I find my 20 year old female cousin's behavior a little rude. First of all, I can understand if she is busy. BUT..if she is busy, why couldn't she just say that to begin with, rather than after me sending her SEVERAL emails and text messages? She definitely had the time to talk to my older sister......but, she couldn't reply back to even one of my first couple text messages?....... I am wondering whether or not she might be "deep down" still upset about me involving her in the emails, that I had sent to

• Answer:

  I think if your dad's family is ignoring you and being rude, then you should not care about connecting with them either. Your dad and their side of the family sound horrible. The best revenge is to "succeed" and then not even talk to them. Go out there, do well in school and become something great without your dad's family. Don't demand anything from your dad or cousin. Leave them alone. Forget them. You should stop paying them so much attention and focus on doing well in school and with your real friends. My suggestion is to let it go.