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  • My Brother has just turned nine years old while i am almost 14. Is it normal for us to argue almost on a daily basis? Also my dad has just changed jobs about 2 years ago and when he was at his old job he was home from work 2 days in a year (fathers day and one where he was so sick he couldn't even make it to his car without vomiting (EWW!!!)) Anyway, now with his new job he has just been put off and he is at home looking after us these school holidays. He (in my opinion) doesn't even know how to parent us right because his old job where he had 2 days off in a year, he worked there all my life until I was 12. Now whenever we argue to bicker just a little bit, he hells at us and asks me when am i going back to school so that he 'doesn't have to put up with us anymore'. He has always been like this and I know that he has just been off work and may be a bit stressed but my mum works too and we can live without his wage until he starts up at this new place next week. My parents also blame me for the age gap between my brother and me because I was reallly bad as a child and they were scared if he would be the same (but instead he is just utterly perfect). he is in year 2 at school and on his report card also he got ALL a's in a normal class and my parents (especially mum) boasts about his marks and how in all his books there was not one cross in all his years work. I am in year 9, doing year 11 and 12 work in my accelerated classes and I have been getting a's and some high b's. and all i got was a very well done from my grandparents when i was talking to them on the phone and they asked me how i went. Our neighbours also attend the primary school (1 child - in my brothers year) and 1 child in my h/s who is a year below me and we get on very well. One day, my bro was held in after school and I was working and he was left behind. My 'wonderful' brother however went to the office to call his mommy. And it was my fault the neighbors walked away because I did not communicate right and 'stormed out of the house' when my mum and I had a slight argument and she told me to hurry up getting ready and go to school. And to 'get out of her room and she doesn't want to see my face'. I think it is unfair that my brother gets all the praise and attention. Sorry about all my rambling but what do you think? - Is he getting too much attention or am I just a drama queen?- - is it unfair they blame me about the age gap because of my behaviour (that i admit was really bad) and my mums previous depression?4 - is it unfair that they expect my brother and me not to fight? - is it normal to fight when we are so different and I hardly ever back down to anything and when he bites or kicks me in my already damaged knee that i yell at him as loud as i can and NEVER touch him back - any suggestions on how i can improve? oh, and how he is such a great house cleaner and how he could sweep floors better than me when i was 10 and he is 4 orrr 5? SORRY ABOUT MY RAMBLING AND STUFF but are these comparisons too harsh on me and how THEY wonder WHY i have the signs of depression but it isnt bad enough to be diagnosed but the doctors have said the signs are there? Is it unfair that they expect me to run myself into the ground between homework, assignments, actual WORK, gym and house chores? HELP THANKS

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    My brother is about 5 years older than me (im almost 17 and he is 21) and when we were kids we argued a faught a lot. Its just the ways most brothers are but in the end brothers usually stick together. As the youngest of 3 i can admit that i do get the most attention but thats because since im less independant then my brother and sister, they still have someone to use their parenting skills on. Siblings will always fight but they will also stick together so just try to be a bit more patient with your brother.

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Wow this sounds a lot like at my house. My older sister is 18 and she was valadictorian because she made straight 100s and my mom sometimes will describe me as "the bad sister." Also my dad asks when we're going back to school because he gets tired of us. Anyways, back to you, it's obviously normal for siblings to fight but frequently screaming at each other every day can get out of hand. I wouldn't say that he's getting "too much" attention, even though it's a lot easier to make straight As when you're in elementary school, but you may be feeling left out and that isn't fair in my opinion. It's weird how they bring up the age gap because my parents never give a crap about that lol. That is kind of wrong. Maybe you could show that you're trying to be a good kid because your effort is really the best thing you can do. Constant fighting as siblings is something you two will probably eventually grow out of; when me and my sister were younger we fought *all the time * and ticked everyone off, but nowadays we just get in minor fights from time to time. Oh yeah and your mom's 'previous depression' could be the reason why you show signs of it.

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