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How can I get my mom to pay attention to me?

How can I get my parents to actually pay attention to me?

  • I'm a Jr. in high School and I'm currently taking online classes because it is hard for me to concentrate in public school. I just started this last month and have been finding it easier to complete, and learn the subjects. My parents are able to follow my work and look through my portfolio for completed assignments. On math it's always in the 95-100% range so no worries there. Now when it comes to English and history, it could range anywhere from 70-100%. Lately, I failed four English quizzes with scores of 55-68%, and two history quizzes both with the score of 65%. Of course my mom checks my work, and immediately calls my stay-at-home dad. So he calls me over to start yelling at me. He says the same "Oh you are going to fail" and " I'm a Geniusand know everything about the corporate world" and the recent "when are you going to get it through your thick skull that school is important". I KNOW ALL OF THIS. This online school is the best thing that has happened to me (in terms of education) and I actually am learning things now. Although i had those few hiccups I'm doing great. When they look at my portfolio all they do is look at scores. On every subject there are essays you have to complete that you know the subject. They don't even bother to read them. I'm trying to tell them that I understand the subject, and I ask them constantly to read my essays. But of course, they just want to focus on the little quizzes that are ten questions long. They only look at anything bad I ever do, the last compliment I have ever gotten from my parents had to do with cleaning things for them. Whenever I write good essays they ignore them, and I personally think that they think I am dumb. I am the oldest so I have to set a good example for my siblings, but they don't set any examples for us. My dad just sits at home all day playing games on the computer, so talking to him is out of the question. And my mom doesn't like to admit that she is wrong, or doing anything wrong. My sister is always finding ways to get me in trouble (ex. stealing money then blaming it on me) and she is the main reason I'm not in a good mood most of the time. My parents see her as a little angel, and when ever she does anything wrong my parents say it's my fault. I have to babysit my siblings, I have to pick them up from school, I have to check and see if they are doing things right, and I have to be the role model for them. My parents only look at their grades. Heck, I even try to hang out with my mom sometimes and she doesn't want to because she would rather sit on the couch and watch TV. My parents are constantly comparing me to other kids by saying things like "Oh look at your friend ... he's doing good" or "your sister is younger than you and look at her.". They only pay attention to me when they have to tell stories to their friends or when something I'm doing is going to help them.And now my dad wants me to start school at 8am and end at 6pm. I'm tired of feeling this way and quite frankly I'm pissed off. I've even contemplated certain things due to them not paying any attention to me. When i was little-er I thought things would get better once I got older, turns out that was just wishful thinking. Sorry if I wasted your time, i have school to do.

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    Tell them you're doing pretty good for someone who has parents that can't read. No, don't say that, it will only set them off. Try e mailing them your essays. Most people will read at least part od something before they hit the delete button. You might also ask for help on English and history, and tell them you can't study well when you have to babysit.

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oh wow they expect so much from you .I was put under alot of pressure as a kid i have three children of my own now and make sure that every day i tell them how brilliant they are doing ........yo know what if i read this and one of my children had wrote it id sit and cry and feel real shamed as a parent just show them what you have written its real insightful~~ no parent is perfect but the best way to be a parent is to listen ....you are an individual and should never be compared to another because every one is different your under allot of pressure why not just be radical and show them this and say this is how i see my life and where i see my self in this family ~ say you would like it to change ~ im sure if you started comparing them to other people they would start to feel inadequacy in some way ~ awlays believe in your self and always remember that you are aloud to fail at some things ~ by the way you shouldn't have to set an example to your younger siblings that is your parents job ~ your job is to be a sibling and have fun and have a real great relationship with them .........you can look after the but its not your job to be the one that sets the standards~ your parents should go to a positive parenting class they seem addicted to getting what they want form you but pushing the spark out f you in the process ~ sounds like your parents have got into some real bad habits ~

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