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Do i have a legal case from emotional abuse from brother in family home?

• Hi im Nick and have a difficult situation i would like some legal advice for (if its possible). I live in Australia Melbourne and concern about my mental and emotional well being. I currently live at home and unemployed and am consistently emotionally abuse by my older brother. I understand that family do have arguments and fights etc. Yet i have got to that point where enough is enough more then a 100 times. Im 28 totally broke and looking for work and have a brother who basicly yells at me and my mother whenever his upset about anything and blames us for anything that goes wrong. While my mother takes it and lets it continue. No matter how it effects me even to the point of sucidal when im really low . I have communicated my feelings with my mother many times yet i am basicly told to shut up, dont think like that. His unwell your ok so deal with it.. your jsut too lazy to get a job. LOL i wish i was lazy yet sadly im just emotionally screwed up. With the ability to communicate my feelings calmly. I have done all i can to help him so has my mother. Yet i have reached the point like a year ago thats its best just not to have any connection to him for its always ends up with him emotional abusing me. Calling me names, saying i will amount to nothing, even trying to hit me to reclaim his power as he would say for his not scared of me?, for i used to smack him when he was abusing mum or me back when i was a teenager. Mind you i choose not to do that behaviour anymore since i was like 19.. not worth it. i cannot be bothered rehashing all the irrational insults. Its a pattern and i know its not about me, always about him and im just a piece a **** in his eyes. The man was heavly abused by my father who has passed on hence why i feel he believes he can do what he likes when he likes, say what it likes. I wouldnt be surprized he suffers from scitzophernia from his delusions. I cry and suffer emotionally. Even when i was working i would have him keeping me up all night with loud music when i have work the next day and my mother just justifying it has 'his unwell' just let it go. I do let it go all the time no matter what he does, yet i cannot bear this burdan thats getting to much. 28 years is enough and i cannot get my **** together to get a job and move out to support myself. My situation sucks and i am tired of going in circles and me wringing about the same issues that does effect me on all area's of like like work, relationships, emotional and money wise. I would like to know if its possible to sue my brother for abuse. I am tired of keeping quiet while he tried to dictact this household when his clearly suffering from a mental illness and anger issues. And my mother hiding his sickness and allow this to continue. I feel she is partly to blame for this abuse to continue and to all him at age 36 continue to abuse both of us. He has enough money and a other home his paid off to move into yet chooses to stay for he doesnt want to be alone cause he has no friends and gets it people dont like him for his lack of empathy for anyone but himself. I guess what brought me to do this cause i found out today that i may have serious stomach problem which i had test done to find out if its serious or not. I am scared for my health and having him act out today with my mum aware of my health issues and not doing a dam thing crying in the shower. I want justice i want to sue. So tell me people how can i get free or cheap unemployed rates to sue him or at least get him or me out of this dam house of abuse. Please guide me to the right direction to inforce my human rights so i can take some legal action agasint him if possible. For i am like a prsioner. No money mean no options to rent a home. Getting a job is hard for me to hold down when i dont get enough rest and consitantly hearing him yelling at my mother at random days and then having a go to work with no energy cause i just want to cry or be numb.

• Answer:

  The only person to blame is yourself. The situation you are in has nothing to do with your brother. It is 100% to do with you not becoming an adult. You need to move out NOW. Sleep on a friends couch, work in a cafe, in a supermarket stacking shelves ANYTHING to get some money. There is NO excuse for not working at your age. Your excuses are just excuses not reasons. For the record - you cannot sue a family member (who lives in your house) for verbal abuse. So get that "get rich quick" idea out of your head. If you start saying this out loud your mother will likely throw you out of the house NOW. On second though, mention it, having your mother throw you out is what you need.