Why are single, young, male professionals disrespected?

How do I tell my dad I'm sorry if he felt disrespected but I'm sticking to my guns?

• So apparently some people at my church have told my dad that the way I had presented myself one Sunday at church had disrespected them. Instead of talking to me about the issue, they go straight ahead and call my dad to tell him to tell me. Besides the problem that the church members have never mentioned this to me at all, and that I'm over 18 so its not like my parents really can go and ground me about this issue. My dad brings it up to me and tells me that some church members have called him and told him they felt disrespected by something I wore and would appreciate it if I never wear it again. I replied that its fine, they wont have to. My dad gently just says that he was telling me before one of them said something to me (again, never-minding the fact that telling someone about your grievances with them and not going around their backs and telling everyone else is how an adult handles things, also never-minding the fact that going around my back was disrespectful). I said that I know, and they wont have to see me again to say anything to me. Now my dad's upset with me and is mad at me for not just bending to his will and telling him that he is always right and I am always wrong, and though I'm not sorry for my opinion on the issue that they should've talked to me, and that if they wanna behave like that I can show them I will too. I am sorry that my dad is upset with me and feels disrespected by me. So how do I tell my dad I am sorry he feels disrespected, I don't mean to do that; however, if they wanna go around my back and disrespect me, then I do not want to see or be around them? Cause he doesn't see it that way, to him, I am the only one in the wrong. No matter how I can think to explain it.

• Answer:

  People/parents tear you down to build themselves up- Think about this for awhile. Words are not said to help you at all. Its only a trick to make abusers/parents feel good. When people are sick they say mean things to feel better. This goes for people at school as well. Abusers use put downs, ignoring or hitting. You are tricked and thats why you feel bad. Abusers lie and have lies mixed with past truths other times. They have problems so its not your fault. Hurting people hurt others and were abused themselves. You are being abused. Divorce, father gone, abuse, ignoring can make children grow up with non existent so called "Mental Problems" or turn them into abusers. Abusive mean people often call you crazy or names of mental disorders to abuse you. The "Chemical Imbalance" claim is false. It has been thoroughly discredited by researchers. They "vote" to make it a disease.." Its total fraud" -- Dr. Fred Baughman Neurologist. It's okay to live away from abusers verbal or physical and cut them off. Dont speak to them. They will never change unless forced. Remember- Read 20 sites daily on Emotional Abuse- also Tell your teacher. God wants you to Forgive- which does not require talking to them- Call Child Protective Services transitional housing to age 21. State directory- http://www.findcounseling.com/journal/child-abuse/child-abuse-hotlines-phone-numbers.html Source(s): Experience seeing the truth change lives. I have questions for you/talk for more help also.