What do i do after i get here?

What should I do about this girl (I know its long, but can I please get help)?

• Recently I have run into a lot of issues with my family. My dad was diagnosed with type 2 prostate cancer. He was also laid off both his jobs. What happened also was that my younger brother ran away due to all the issues. Now, I am about 1000 miles away in college in another state. And here, I am incredibly worried about all my family issues but also trying my hardest to get through each semester. I am taking out massive loans to pay for school as I come from a rather poor family. And I recently have fallen into incredible stress from all of this. And I worry about how my family will pay the bills on time. I just wish I could help but I have to stay here in school. I am trying to stay strong, but there are other issues here wich are bringing me down hard. Ontop of it all, I have a girlfriend. The thing with her is that she only shows affection when I get upset at her. Other than that, she will not even care. All she cares about is herself and her feelings, that is until I get upset and then after a day or two she doesn't even care. Hell even sex. I don't feel up for anything right now, and if I don't have sex with her she will turn very upset. I told her I want a break up but she tells me that she will kill herself if I leave. This adds to my depression as I care so much for her and don't ever want her to do something horrible because of me. She just doesn't see that I have so much more on my plate, and that I also have to focus on school. Last semester, she was so clingy and around the times of her period she would turn incredibly crazy latching on to me every second of the day. I had to study and she would always want to study with me- but would impede my studying when she constantly made out with me. She just couldn't study alone because she said she felt depressed and sad and what not. I mean, I have things I need to take care of too! As for my family, she cares less. I have asked her why she doesn't give a damn and she all of the sudden starts her stupid fake pitty on me. Then it wears off and it goes back to an "I don't care" attitude. Throughout 8 months, as sad as this sounds, I have put her ahead of everything. And I finally asked her to describe me and asked her basic things about me - guess what? She didn't know anything about me. This hurts so much that I was always up at 3 am listening to her problems and even help her through her illness (she got a stomach ulcer from stress) at any hour of the night. I would always make sure she took her medication, I drove over 1500 miles just to get to her over the summer and take her to the hospital, I would always make her try her hardest in school, kept her from giving up on herself, and I tried to make her learn to love herself and who she is. I just don't know what to do. I asked her why she can't 'meet me half way' and she says life isn't fair, and that because of that I just have to deal with what I have. Please don't suggest talking nor counseling for her and I as that will never work, and has been attempted. She likes making me feel inferior too. She likes to make me feel like anything I do is **** comapred to what she does. Even when I study for exams like math, she makes me feel so stupid. She likes ridiculing me. But when I get mad, she turns all nice and whatnot.... Also, she has attempted to tamper with my condoms, and has lied that she has gone to the gyno to get birth control pills. I would never want to bring in a child to this world without me being ready to take care of it. I'm 20 years old in school, and certainly not ready. She doesn't care, and she thinks its easy just to get pregnant and have a child. She has told me that so many times. And I don't need more stress in my life. So I have absitained from any sex and she is outraged. I may be incredibly in love with her, but she is not good for me. I am still here holding strong, and wish she would help me get through this hard part in my life, just like I have helped her. But I am much more stronger of a person inside than she is, and feel I want to be alone and get through this on my own. When I met her, I fell for that person, not for the apathetic depressed incredibly negative and outrageously selfish person she is now. What can I do?

• Answer:

  you have enough on your plate you should pay more attention to your family issues first and if she doesnt like it shes not the right girl for you. theres other fishes in the water and one that would actually be there for you when you need her to. i say leave her. but than again follow your heart you dont want a family death (god forbid) to happen and shes not there to lend u a shoulder u would want some one to stick by u. to be in a relationship it takes two shes obviously not ready for that she still on lil kid b/s so do whats important ro u now