How can handle my mom without really disrespecting her.?

Make a copy of your question here, and hand it to her, asking her to please read it. Then don't say anything else unless she wants to talk about it.

Refuse to see or speak to her again. Sometimes it's best to just walk away for good.

I'm sorry, & am not trying to be too hurtful towards either of you but, What a BBIITTCCHH!!!

Sometimes the best thing to do for yourself is to get away from her! She will not change and it seems that she needs to take a look in the mirror before speaking bad things of you. What kind of mother would treat her daughter this way?! Not a very good one. Is it possible to just stop being around her? Silence is golden and it seems that you need some from her!

Wow. It sounds to me as though your mom is really insensitive and not at all supportive and understanding. If it helps any, you are not that much older than my own kids - and I can tell you that -I- would be proud of you if you were my daughter. You know your limitations, but you don't whine about them - you throw yourself into life and give it everything you've got. You have heart, you have guts, and you have a clue. That is something you earned for yourself. Please don't allow anyone else to take that away from you. Your mom sounds as though she is wired like my former mother-in-law - someone who is very insecure in her own life, who over-compensates by "rating" her kids in terms of what they have and her perception of the status of what they do. I think that if she had her own life going on, she wouldn't feel the need to sit back and critique her kids so much. She might even feel that she is "motivating" you by being critical and dismissive - as though you are going to say, "haha, I will prove her wrong!" and redouble your efforts to succeed - which would be an idiotic thought to have, because that style does not motivate everybody, and it sure isn't what you need. It is not as though you aren't trying, and it's not as though you need motivation, even if that awful kind of motivation didn't turn you completely away from her as it would if that were me. Sweetie, about the only think I can recommend to you is to stop seeking any kind of understanding or acceptance from her. I don't mean that in a negative way, but in an accepting way. She is who she is - and just as you have an illness that restricts your abilities in some ways, so does she. She has some kind of emotional or psychological limitation that is prevents her from being the kind of mom that you deserve - that every child of any age deserves. A good mom learns what is best for each child, and looks to encourage and support that child at what he or she is best at. Your mom just sits back and takes cheap shots at you. It is sad - but hey, you haven't come as far as you have just to crawl back in your shell. She is just not capable of giving you what she should - so the only thing that you can do is understand that she will never, ever give it, accept that truth and mourn it for a time, and find the respect and loving support you deserve from someplace else. Whether it is a network of friends, folks from church, or wherever you can find it, there are people out there like me who know quality when they see it, and admire that quality in all of its manifestations. You have that quality, and you certainly have my respect, for what it's worth. Please don't let her break your spirit. You don't need to disrespect her - just don't expect anything of her, and you won't be disappointed. That is not really as depressing as it sounds - it is actually quite liberating. If you stop seeking her approval and pride, it will actually give you more power over her. What she is saying is pretty idiotic anyway: "Everybody is going to pass you by and you are going to lose." WTF does that mean? Life is not a competition - and sweetie, you already have something important that money can't buy, which is a heart. Here she is saying mean and dismissive things to you, and you are concerned about not disrespecting her. Nope - don't hand her any control over your feelings, and celebrate that you have it all going on. Think of the Serenity Prayer, and calm yourself.

First of all ignore your mother. a mother should never make a daughter feel like crap... she is wrong for that. just remember to keep your head up and be strong. if you are strong in mind and in heart you will suceed... Tell her how you feel, tell her it hurts, tell her you want her to be proud of you. to love you for who you are...

I don't know why your mom does and says the things she does. It seems like she loves you but then she does and says weird things. I can't help you change her. Honestly, I think you need to change your mind set about her. You know how it goes, you can't change the other person but you can change yourself. You must cut the apron strings with her. Don't worry so much about what she thinks or what she says. Don't tell her anything too personal because you know she'll use it against you later. You don't even have to tell her the apron strings are cut because remember you don't care what she thinks anymore. Set the standard or example right now on how your relationship will be from here on out. Get control over what is acceptable and not. She will eventually respect you for it.