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My dads an alcoholic and i don't know how to help him!?

  • He's always been a drinker but i never really came to turns with it until recently (i've just turned 20). It's payday today and he sneaked out the house to go down the pub as usual, he picked my 8 year old brother from school today (mum was working) and took him to the pub afterwards! I had to drag it out of him because even as an 8 year old knows it was wrong and didn't want to tell anyone. I know, family all know, my boyfriend knows, everyone does. Me and my brother are closest to my dad, probably because my mum and sister have moaned at him about it, so i think it's time i said something. I don't want to moan at him, i know it's not all his fault (he gets soo stressed at work to provide what ever we want, high profile job). I don't know how i should go about talking to him/what i should say so i'm not blaming/scaring him if you know what i mean. I know that alone won't make him get help, but i feel it'll be a great start. I really think he would listen to me more he does really listen to me more than others i would say (especially since i've just started a psychology degree). HELP!!!

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    you can't make your dad get help but you can be there for him. Connect with www.al-anon.alateen.org and they might be able to help you. You will need to protect your brother (bravo on that) and you will need to have tough love for him but let him know that you do love him. Your going to have to talk to your mum about it and see what she says about what he did to your brother and also about what is really going on with him. She might have her blinders on with regard to how bad it is. Maybe together you can both talk to him about it but do connect with the al-anon organization, they have alot of experience with this.

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You can't help him if he doesn't want help, but you can check out a group called children of alcoholic parents. It can help you to cope. Good Luck!

I would bring him to rehab...or to those programs when drunk ppl get professional help...tell him your afraid to wake up one day knowing your only father chose alcohol instead of choosing help! and that he rather be 6ft under than to be w/you!

there is no way that you can get through to your dad until he decides he doesn't like his life the way it is. stop making excuses for him, he is an adult, the only thing is alcoholics never ever tell the truth or take responsibility for their own behavior, they know what they are doing as far as tearing the family apart. he is running away from the truth, but he has become an alcoholic which is another problem. your father bringing your brother into a tavern is so wrong. your brother is an alcoholic in the making. does your mom know that this happens. i was married to an alcoholic, he killed himself drinking. you need to confront your dad and tell him what you see and that you won't be part of it any longer. your brother shouldn't be in a car with him. you need to go to your school conciliar, tell her the truth. your father is refusung to grow up and your covering for him will not help. he needs to know that he has lost you if he keeps it up. you have to protect your self and help your mom and sister, make sure he isn't drinking everything away. my husband went after the equity in the house. check out your bank accounts and get everything into your moms name so that he can't drink everything you have away. try to keep your brother away from him, if he drives drunk, you know what can happen. your father can't face up to things, he is numbing himself and killing himself and until he decides, he is going to continue. you have to help your mom as best you can to make sure you make everything finantially safe for yourself.

Well my dad is the same way and there is nothing that I can do to stop him,he is 49,I am 21 and he has the right to drink.

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