I was molested by a cousin and i told my brother...?

I wouldn't tell if you asked me not to, but it would kill me not to tell. Then I'd kick the crap out of your cousin.

I'm an older brother. my sis and I have a 2.5 year difference. we had a similar relationship, as you and your bro, when we were in our teens. that said, I can def relate. if my sis would have done the same thing, I would have def let my father know. I understood then, and even more so now, that molestation is a serious matter. I would want the offender prosecuted so that the crime doesn't go unpunished. and more importantly so that it never happens to another child. you did the right thing by letting someone know. I'm sorry for what happened. all the best.

you brother will let you sort it out on you own. just know that older siblings are always there for you if you want to talk. im not going to tell you to tell your parents. the first place i would go is to the cops. i was living with...an abusive school friend, who treated me like his slave ( s/m ) i didnt tell anyone bc i would a get the sh*t kicked out of me by his four other brothers and get kicked out of his house and i really didnt want to go back home. the only ppl who ive told was my present bf who i met while i was living with him, my bfs mom and a neighbor i trust. certian smells still trigger memories and i still have nightmares from living with the school friend. it feels good to let it all out. i agree with seeing a shrink when your ready.

I dont think your brother will tell... But after he beats up your cousin your parents are probably going to find out and be upset that they dont think you can confide in them.. Be strong, you know the right thing to do.

This is a serious case. Don't be scared if your parents knew about it, because they have the right and they'll be the ones who'll help you. For now, you're just not ready to let them know, but your brother will tell them eventually. Your parents' initial reaction would be rough, so just be ready for that. But please, don't think about keeping it for the rest of your life. It's a serious case and you won't be able to move on coz you're gonna carry that burden till you grow old. And he (your cousin) will continue doing that and might even abuse if he won't be stopped. I hope that helped :) Good Luck.

the same thing happend to me with my male cousin when i was younger from the ages of 11-15 i am 19 years old today and told my sister this year! she didnt tell me mum which is a good thing. I think your brother will respect you. Yeah he probabaly really wants to tell your parents, but i think he will talk to you first at least before he does something like that, i think you should talk to him soon about it. How would you feel if he told you that and you had to wait to talk about it? you would feel worried and angry that someone hurt your brother so much. so talk to him soon

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You most likely told your brother cause you were sick and tired of keep this "family" secret. People can go insane keeping something like that inside. You need to tell your parents before your brother does. Your parents have a right to know. Cause since this cousin did this to you he/she will do this to another poor Innocent child. Do you want that to happen? This is just the beginning, you will need to tell your parents, your parents will have to get you some physiological help. It's not like you can just tell them and everything will be back to normal. Cause it won't. You need to be thinking of your future and being molested by a family member will take time and energy to overcome. I know that you are feeling overwhelmed right now and kinda wish that you didn't say anything at all, but you did ,so now you must deal with it. Your cousin should go to jail,for this. It is against the law! Keep your chin up be strong and stick to your words! I know it may be scary at times but you and your family will get through this.

Hi blah, well first I applaud you for having the courage to tell someone, that must be a big load off your shoulders. This will all come down to how much you trust your brother not to tell. I'm guessing you must have some faith in him or else you wouldn't have told him. But even if he does tell your parents its not the end of the world. I advise you to find some time to talk to him about this and see where he stands. It seems you two have a pretty good relationship so that's a good sign that he won't tell your parents. You have to also realize that your cousin was sexually abused by somebody at some point in his life or he never would have done this to you. This doesn't just happen randomly. So give that some thought. I was abused myself so I can relate to you and I know a bit about the subject. Please feel free to email me if you need support. I don't mind at all.