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Why I feel depressed just because I am a stay at home mother?

Can I rant about stay at home moms?

  • *These are just my honest opinions, feel free to disagree... Doesn't every mother want to be a stay at home mom? Do you think they like working from 5 to 8, and barely ever get time to see their children, or time for themselves? Doesn't it sound harder to raise children AND have a full time job, instead of having your partner support you? Ok, to be honest, I am 14 so (obviously) I've never had kids, but watching my mother get home so late every day, helping us with our homework, being there for our school events, making dinner when she gets home, taking me places, being there emotionally... it makes me angry that people mock mothers who have to work AND take care of their children, hence me writing this. I know I might not have a place in this, but I DO have an opinion whether is is justified or not. I'm sorry, but the most annoying thing to me is when stay at home moms say that they have the hardest job in the world, while there are mothers (like mine) who have to work 2, 3 jobs just to give their kids a house to live in, clothes to wear, food to eat, things to play with, and a happy childhood? It is completely unfair to me as mothers on welfare are able to raise their children without ever having to worry about this stuff... should that be the example that your kids grow up seeing? That by taking advantage of a system that is supposed to be for people who can't sustain themselves, you, an able-bodied person, are using it so that you don't have to get a job and make your own money? Don't get me wrong... good for you, if you can stay at home all day, have your husband provide the money, take gender equality and flush it down the toilet, and spend all the time you want with your children, but just DO NOT say it is the hardest job in the world. What are your thoughts, maybe you can change my mind on this.

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    Majority of stay at home mums do not get paid. We are cooks,cleaners,clerical assistants,nurses,counselor and support our kids by helping them with their homework and attending school events and whatever else they are involved in.Being a parent is a full-time job night and day,No I do not mock parents who work full time but hopefully it is just to pay the mortgage and bills not providing children with too many luxuries.I have never wanted to work not with raising a child and I am not able to because children come first not jobs and money.

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Not sure it is the hardest job in the world, but it definitely has its ups and downs like a normal job does. I know my wife has days where the children are great and she went to the zoo, while I kicked my butt at work with crasy amounts of stress to meet deadlines that day. Then there are those days where the day at work was slow and my wife never got out of the house, two potty training kids wet themselves and pooped on the carpet so she had to clean them and the carpet and wash their clothes, cleaned up after breakfast and lunch and cleaned up all the toys and made dinner before I arrived home. We all have our challenges and I would not say one job is harder nor more rewarding. I am grateful that my wife is the teacher of our children and has the opportunity to stay home and raise our kddos. We made that decision at the beginning to not require financial responsibilty to require two incomes and that has been the best decision for almost 20 years now.

Stay at home Mom's say that because they do it every day all day with no changes. Your Mom also has a hard job because she works and still takes care of her family. It's hard to work so long and come home to children but it is also hard to take care of children all day while cleaning the house with no breaks. I hope you realize they are both complicated in there own ways.

I do understand where you are coming from. But there are factors to consider. Yes some women are able to marry a man who can marry a man who can support his family and the wife can stay home all day. But you have to take into consideration; how many children do they have? Are they home schooled or public schooled? Are they good children or do they get things done? Do they volunteer for field trips, etc? Even situations that they are going to. Even though my mom is considered a stay at home mom she does more than a normal stay at home mom. My brother (who is very VERY active) and I are home schooled and it's not one of those schools where you get away with everything. She picks our curriculum, takes us on field trips, grades our school work, and more. Then she works on Friday's at a bank. She worked during the summer 3 days a week an hour away. Plus my dad owns his own business and she pays all the bills and does all paper work for that plus for our home. We've gone through several problems and it's incredible all that my mom can do. So, to the point, some mom's yes are stay at home moms but don't work as hard as mom's who take care of their home and family and work, but take into consideration the factors of their life.

Being a parent is hard. Any parent who tries to be a decent parent. You're right. What your mother does is hard. I only know what I saw in my wife. She decided to be a stay at home mom out of duty. She has some emotional issues, but I don't think they were the main problem. The problem was that she is a social butterfly who thrives on adult attention and totally lost her mind staying home with babies. She was miserable and she made everyone miserable. We'd have been better off with a salary and more money and a nanny or day care. My kids would have college and wedding funds, I'd have a good retirement fund. And my stay at home wife didn't help with homework, or even check if there was any. I had to do that at 7 PM, and I had to cook or take us out, though she was there for school events. Everyone's different. Being a SAHM is not for everyone. Being a parent is not for everyone. There are a lot of ways to raise kids well.

I guess stay at home moms are mad because, well, their stay-at-home moms.

Change your mind, nah, I want to give you a pat on the back for being so astute as such a young age.

Im about your age and I agree.

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