Is this normal for a mother to act?

1) Calling you obscene names is inappropriate. As her respectfully and calmly if she will stop calling you names because it hurts you. 2) If she doesn't like your friends for what she sees on their facebook pages, then she probably has a good reason. 3) Maybe she was a wild child and doesn't trust you because she knows she wasn't trustworthy when she was a kid. 4) You are 13, but you're still a child. If she wants to check up on you, good for her. At least she cares.

It sounds like your mom always criticizes you but she never builds your confidence back up afterward. I'm so sorry! :( I really feel bad for you babe. Just stick with it because you sound like a WONDERFUL girl. You're grades are great and you play violin!? That's really cool! Message me if you need anything. [email protected] -Katie

I would LOVE to hear your mothers side of this story.

Your mom needs to learn to trust you. She is making your life miserable. Calling you names isn't right, either. You are doing nothing wrong. Everyone your age pretty much has a Facebook, email, passwords and they should be yours alone. UNLESS you are doing something illegal or immoral there is no reason for her to snoop through your private issues. Even minors are allowed some privacy. Your mother needs help. No child deserves to live in a household like that (in some states leaving 7-year-olds in the care of a 13-year-old is considered child neglect.) It sounds like she is physically abusing you, too. Is the mother the reason why you got a broken wrist, a concussion, neck and head injuries? Please contact a responsible adult who can intervene.

i'm almost a skeptic . . . (well, i guess that's because MY parents always gives me privacy and let me do whatever I want as long as it's not something bad, i'm going to be 14 on may 29th, by the way) that's a MOM? sorry to hear that . . . well, that's not a bit normal for a mother to act! how on EARTH could she call you a B**** or S*****??? you are her CHILD!!! and she has no right to have your password on anything and/or to have your text messages checked and/or tell you who you can be friend with and who you can't. it's just not right. and yes, you should have plenty of privacy! have you tried to talk to her about this at all?? um, really, really no offense but, is she retarded or something?(please don't get mad, i just really can't believe that she would call you a B**** or S*****) btw, i think it's really great that you get no lower grades than a B+(same goes for me!!)

i'm 12 but i think i have some idea what its like, only my da d gives me a little more privacy, i really feel bad knowing that youve been treated that way, i think you should just tell her how you feel about her and tell her you want some privacy. and keep on about it, she'll have to listen sooner or later, maybee you just need to ask:-)keep your hopes up:-) and have faith in yourself

Moms can be pretty crazy. Hehe, I don't think anyone is completely normal again after having critters. But it does sound like your mom is a major control freak. She probably thinks she's just trying to protect you from making stupid decisions... but calling you a ***** is totally not okay. It sounds like she feels under a LOT of pressure and insecurity about herself and her own life, and it's making her want to get as much control over it as she can. If that's true then she'll probably expect perfection out of you. What you want to do about that is your choice, but if you ever did want to rebell let me hint that it'll be easy as long as she's not abusive. She's never physically hurt you, right? But the fact that she's calling you names proves that she's insecure about her posistion as Neck of the House. It almost seems like your mom needs a mother more than you do, honey. All I can personally reccomend is to let her think she's in control at all times, only speak when spoken to, and when spoken to, never elaborate more than a sentence or two. Maybe when asking to go out with friends, include the name of a person she likes. Be free as you can to the limits you desire when she's away. Good luck.

This is not family government that I would want to live under. My family government saddle-bagged me with a $4.35K failed post-secondary education attempt for which I have to sell blood plasma twice a week to earn money towards it and you do not want to get me started on the prologue before that. Basically, the work world that my parents trained me for is the complete opposite of what is actually common practice -- acquiring and retaining employees based on how much money it costs to pay them. Still, like I said, this is not family government that I would want to live under. You describe the kind of child relative that anybody with a head on his shoulders would love to have. You wake up on your own, prepare breakfast, and head off to school all without being told. You even come home early to keep an eye on your kid brother to help avoid the expense of a babysitter. There is nothing worth complaining about that suggests you are not a good kid. Unfortunately, I am not the family government of that household and I think that there is more going on with your mother than looking through your emails and Facebook account. I understand that your mom wants to keep tabs on you to ensure against poor judgment on your part and repel away the cyber Boogie Man. The Boogie Man that scares me right now is your mom because of her proximity. I heartily recommend that this dynamic be given an abrupt bootstrapping. How is this abrupt bootstrapping to take place, you ask? I would start by changing the password on your Facebook and email accounts along with inviting your mom ONCE a week to supervise you as you conduct your online life on the computer. A lot of stuff happens during the week and it is a lot more insightful than your mom checking up in that forum 28-35X/week like she currently does. The insults have to stop; they are counterproductive in more ways than one. Perhaps the only thing about this dynamic that worries me more than your mom's conduct toward you is the possibility that your little brother is catching all of this as a lesson in how to treat women. Your kid brother does not even have a full decade under his belt and he is earning a doctorate in how dysfunctional the world is . . . I do not think that is right at all. I would seriously consider voting with my feet against this if I were you. Do you have a friend that you can stay with in order to get your head screwed on right that has much more a reasonable and responsible family government than yours? Ask around at school and see what your options are. Once you are on solid ground, see if you can get your junior brother away from your mom or at least keep in touch with him so that he realizes that his big sister has not left him high and dry. This is not going to get any better on its own and there is a lot to do.