Is it normal to be able to feel lympnodes in toddlers neck?

My BF has a serious drug and alcohol problem, how do I help him even though it is effecting me?

• So I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years (this year being the 3rd) and ever since I met him up until about 2 months ago, he was probably the sweetest guy I've ever met, he was everything I wanted in a guy, but now that's all changed. He started getting high and wasted again when his best friend since they were toddlers died. Even though he didn't show it for the first couple of weeks, I knew that he was crushed by it because his behavior completely changed. He started up on the drinking and drugs, being a jerk, always wanting to know where I'm going, and sings of aggression. At first the violence with him was minor, like he'd just grab me by the arm and shake me or something, but now it's gone to a whole new level. He usually does this when he's high or drunk (which is pretty much all the time), he grabs me harder and squeezes my arms to the point were they feel like they are going to burst. he slams me into things roughly, he throws me on the floor, he'll wrap his arms around my arms really tight and put all of his weight on me to the point were I cant move at all and struggle to break out and he'll just torment me while he is doing it by saying something that will hurt me emotionally or harassing me sexually. He even grabs me by the neck sometimes and forces me to look at him if he's trying to talk to me. Just about a week ago he came home one night and it was really late, I was asleep because I had an early class in the morning, I'm a freshman in college and he's a junior. Well of course he was on something, but he came inside the room and poured whatever he was drinking on my head which caused me to wake up and I started screaming at him because it got in my ear and everything. He only laughed and kept splashing me with it. I knocked the glass out of his hand then all of a sudden his face goes all straight and he turns into Satan and grabs me by the arm and yanks me towards him and just starts yelling at me and I don't even know what he's saying because he's not in his right mind. So I get scared and I run to the living room and grab the phone just in case and he comes out still yelling and starts throwing things almost hitting me and once he's done he told me to come here. I just stand there and then he says it even louder and starts cursing so I run to the restroom and I lock the door. Before I know it he comes and starts banging on the door demanding me to open it, but I don't. He does this for about 6 minuets before giving up. So I just slept in the bath tub that night and thankfully he was asleep when ever I woke up and left for class. I have told him that I wanted to put him in rehab or get some kind of help, but he threatens me by saying he will do something really bad to me. i really, really want to get him help, but I'm just sacred and I've never been stuck in this kind of situation before so I'm just lost. I really long to be with the guy I once used to love and know so well, but I'm afraid that chance is long gone now. I know he is a guy that went through alot in life, for instance his dad was arrested when he was 13 because he abused him, his brothers and sister, and their mom, his grandparents want nothing to do with him because they wanted to their white family race going and he is half white and asian, native american, and spanish so they consider him and his siblings "mongrels", then he and his mother have the worst relationship possible. I'm just tired of his violent/pshycotic behavior and I want him to get help. What should I do?

• Answer:

  Buy him heroin and chill.