How do I become popular with girls?

How do i become comfortable around girls?

• i'm feel like a pussy cuz im 19 and i'm still uncomfortable with talking to girls and new people period. It's not that i'm mad that i'm uncomfortable, i'm mad at myself because i don't have the balls to push through the feeling. When i talk to girls sometimes i either talk fast, mumble or talk low. it's only girls around my age or younger. When i talk to a grown woman like around my mother age i talk like i'm confident, well not like i'm nervous lol. I've always been quiet and never really, really held conversations with girls, i've always made excuses to why i was quiet around them because i was embarrass to admit i was shy/nervous. I've been called dumb and retarded by some people, i dont know if it's because i'm quiet or what but i don't like it. I know girls like confidence but it's something that i lack in many areas. How do i talk to girls with out mumbling and talking low, lol i fear i might talk to loud if i try hard not to mumble. And when i do talk to them they ask another girl "what did he say" and that makes me feel more uncomfortable. Sometimes when i'm by myself i think girls are making fun of me or when they start laughing i think it's at me. One girl was like, "boy why you got them pants on or something, and then when i looked at my pants, her friend said " now she really gon rib you now". SO i'm guessing what the girl said about my pants was really just a joke i guess to see how i'll react to make fun of me some more. lol idk i'm kinda paranoid. I just need help! I don't mean to sound rude but i had a friend that was real good at talking to girls and he got one to have sex with me and believe it or not i thought that would give me confidence but it didn't. so about two weeks later he got another one to sleep with me, and i still dont have confidence in myself. No i'm not gay at all and i know that sex don't lead to confidence or i would have it but i just don't know what's wrong with me. Can somebody help me?

• Answer:

  First, stop having your friend getting girls for you to sleep with. That will never help you be confident because the girl isn't rightfully your "conquest". Its like your having your friend live through you when he finds girls to sleep with you. Second you just have to look in the mirror and love you. Its is perfectly natural to admire yourself. loving yourself will help you want to be loved by others so much that you would have no choice but to want ppl to get to know you. Girls like confident not cocky. Don't be afraid of being yourself that's all you can be. Life is to short to not be enjoying. I am a girl myself and I have to say you can't hold on to shyness it will just hold you back from a lot in different aspects of life. Here are some things you can practice to help you when you actually decide to talk to girls that's if you want to get to know and understand them more than just sexually: 1. Talk (about things like family,friends,goals and dreams etc.) 2. Listen with understanding and reactions 3. compliment (hair,out-fit,smile,eyes etc.) 4. be kind and Gentleman like 5. support her ideas with your own opinions