How do I deal with a gender identity problem? I look very masculine yet I don't like being seen that way.?

I bet Michael Jackson had the same problem and see how he ended. My advise: You are who you are no matter how you look. One day you'll look old you know. So stop looking at the image in the mirror and have fun no matter what.

On the one hand, it sounds like you're just flat-out unhappy with how you look. A lot, A LOT, of people feel that way. Period. It sounds like you want the different body because you think it suits your personality better, or it'd be easier to express your personality with that different body.. and it'd be easier to find guys who are into your personality being how it is - because your body would "match". The bad part is that there's nothing you can do about this. The good part is that, once you find someone worth keeping, you'll know that their acceptance of you wasn't just tied into your body image - they took the time to get to know you and realized that your personality didn't "match" your body. And that's nice, that someone took the time to look past the skin on you. My experience has been that the least likely matches (physically) work out the best. And I'm only 21.

Well... this is a tough one. You obviously cannot change your height or build. So, you need to come to terms with it. How one comes to terms with these types of things varies from person to person. A therapist could best help you with this sort of thing. I do understand where you are coming from. There are plenty of things about me that I cannot change and that I have had to learn to just deal with. I guess when I start to feel sorry for myself I just think about something else, or the fact that there are millions of other people in the world who are suffering so much more than I am. Other peoples' problems tend to make mine seem trivial and insignificant. It may come down to one day finding a girl who loves you for who you are and gives you that boost of self-esteem you need so badly. I wish you the best of luck.

check out stuff like yoga and ayurved, they could help you get in the possibly flexible shape you want. use fashion! wear clothes that suit what you want. visit a stylist or something. and this may help: go on a diet of vegtables, it may help you feel healthier. of course you can have meat, im not against it.

I think you are just as plagued by what society tells people, as many others are. You still have this mindset that a man has to look this way or that way. Same for women. We come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and varieties. I have seen very fem hetero men, and very masc hetero women. All are equally beautiful. None are perfect, and none are imperfect. How to cope: I'd first stop seeing things in black and white. You have GI, right? You, of all people, shouldn't see things as black and white. There are countless shades of grey. Find which one you are, and embrace it. If you want to be softer and more fem, then do it. There are hormones that can be taken, and also your lifestyle might have a deal to do with it. Watch your diet, too. All I know is that I am a small guy. I'm not totally fem, but not 100% masc, either. I do feel as if my body fits with the idea I see, either. Not a GI, but still some self issues. I wished I could offer for help. If you ever need someone to just vent to, please don't hesitate to contact me. Obie

This is a question virtually every woman deals with on a daily basis and some men deal with as well. As someone who is well out of their 20's I'm going to give you some advice based on watching so many people scr3w up their lives. Learn to love yourself or spend the rest of your life and every dollar changing your looks. I'm suggesting the former. I'm not saying this lightly. Get yourself some councelling as to why you find your looks and shape to be not what you want. You have been given the body that you have for a reason if you believe in a Higher Power whatever that may be. I totally understand how frustrating this can be but until you actually deal with it you will always be unhappy. I have watched so many beautiful women, mainly, p*ss away their lives and time and energy and money on surgeries and special clothing and everything but trying to deal with the actual issue at hand. Hang in there and seriously, go talk to someone.

Plastic surgrey work out in such a way to remove your look... don't know how that would work... Or find someone who loves you for you and doesn't make note on your appreance so you will find yourself accepting... That as long as someone you love accepts you, you won't need to accept yourself...

Dress less masculine. Go for the well-groomed metrosexual look. Stylish clothing, manicures, eyebrow waxing; go for the whole "man scape" package. Lose the jeans and sweaters, go for dressier pants and nicer shirts. In the close-up of your face you don't look excessively masculine. You don't say how you act. Don't act "manly" - whatever that means. Join some clubs where the women are more athletic or adventurous and won't feel the need to be taken care of. I'm sorry you're having problems. I wish you all the best!