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Happy mothers day! This got me thinking about what to do on fathers day?!?

  • Happy Mothers Day! I have a question about what to do on fathers day? My husband and I got divorced a few months ago, and we have 21 month old twins. I've got full custody of them. He went all crazy right after the divorce, showed up at my work (I'm a teacher for 10th grade, and he walked in and started announcing all of our problems in front of them...) I also coach cross country for the school, and we were having a team dinner, and he decided to " show up" at the restaurant. And it wasn't just a coincidence, because he hates the Olive Garden. So he kind of stalked me for awhile, but he has stopped. Once I walked in our house when he was supposed to be watching the kids, and he was drunk. Thats when I decided to file for divorce. Anyways, I have full custody, so I let him visit them, but I have to be there, and I dont let them stay with him. For Fathers Day, I was wondering if i should make an exception and let him have the kids for the weekend? I was planning on flying to New York to surprise my dad (We live in Florida, but I'm from NY, and my parents live there. I'm an only child so my mom suggested I surprise him and come visit). Fathers Day is over summer break, so I was seriously thinking about the whole New York thing, since I really miss my parents, friends, and New York in general. But i dont know if i should take the kids with me, since that wouldnt be fair to their dad? I can leave the kids with their dad for Fathers Day weekend, and fly to New York myself, or I can take them with me, and their dad wouldnt be able to see them. I dont know what to do, since I dont trust him that much... Any ideas? Thanks!

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    sorry for the divorce...so sad. ok,if u don't trust him,i think u should take them with you. the mother's intuition are always correct.most of it.so take them.don't leave them with ur ex

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Take the children with you. If he is not allowed to normally see them alone you shouldn't change anything because it's fathers day. Be there if you decide to let them see him.

Alot comes to mind... If he seems to be the type to be abusive or neglective then no.. I would not. Alot of questions follow this answer aswell. All as a basic "Can I trust him enough to watch his children without drinking?" Drunks are just that Drunks, there is almost no hope for those who don't seek outside help willingly. If I were in your shoes and were to allow this to happen then ALOT would come into play. He WILL be supervised. End of story. SO what if you brought them with you and arranged for him to see them when you come back and treat that day as if it were Fathers day save you would have to be there. IF you do not plan to return then there must be a reason yeah? Would it not be him in some way? Really? All one can do is hope, it's all we really have. I for one would NOT leave my children alone with a drunk after he had been drinking while he was supposed to be watching them. Think about it... He was "Watching" them in the first place. He wasn't spending time with them... enjoying their company.. No he was "watching" them. When I see my daughter I do not treat it as if I am babysitting. I look at it as we are spending time together and I try to make every moment with her count. When it comes to children it should never be about babysitting it should be about creating new wholesome memories. SO.. lol .. No I would take them with me and arrange it for another day.

Do a combo of the two options. Fly up to NY maybe on the Wednesday before Father's Day. Stay to Saturday and surprise your father with a nice visit. Then, on Sunday, let the kid's dad have time with his children. You are right, it really is not fair for him to miss them on Father's Day, especially since he does spend time with them. But I wouldn't leave them with their father while you are out of town, since you don't really leave him alone with the kids and they don't stay with him. Over the next couple years, I would work on letting him have weekends alone with them. He is their father and needs (and deserves) to spend time with his kids. You need that break (and deserve it) and he needs to learn how to care for them alone. But for now, split the weekend.

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