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My daughter received a letter off my SIL today and now she no longer wants to be a cook, what do I do?

  • My SIL sent my daughter a letter and now my daughter no longer wants to be a cook because of what she wrote. My SIL is well known within my husband's family for writing letter to members of the family that have been rather down putting about their cooking, however I never thought she would do this to my fifteen year old daughter. Especially when she knows that my daughter has only recently started to rebuild her confidence and self esteem and cooking has helped her a lot. My daughter cooked Christmas dinner with whatever help she needed off my husband or I such as putting the turkey into the oven as she's broken her wrist and hand, she was determined to do most of it herself. Christmas dinner was actually really nice. Luckily, a lot of the sides she had prepared before hand. In the letter my SIL wrote she told my daughter that she shouldn't even consider a career in cooking because she will never get anywhere and all she will ever be is a bad excuse for a cook. She even put that who ever told her she was a good cook and believed she would be a good and successful cook was lying because no decent restaurant would ever take her home. She then went into detail why everything was so terrible in her opinion which simply isn't true. She complained about having a medium rare steak one evening when my daughter asked if she wanted it medium rare or not as my husband, his brother, herself and I eat it medium rare and their children where having something else as they don't like steak but she never said anything. My daughter is now saying she doesn't want to be a cook anymore because she's not as good as she originally though. I really didn't think that she would do this to my daughter, she completely pulled the rug out from under my daughter's feet and has completely shattered her self confidence and self esteem. I just don't know what to do with my daughter, she no longer wants to be a cook even though it is something she has wanted to be for a long time. I've tried talking to her but she doesn't want to talk about it. I'm half temped to go to my SIL's and give her a piece of my mind for upsetting my daughter like this but like my husband has pointed out, that help it solve anything

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    What the hell is wrong with her?! Even if your daughter made a terrible meal, I'd never send that. You need to speak your mind and teach that witch a lesson. Set her in her place, and if I were you not invite her over.

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Wow what a nasty person she is. Speak to your daughter show her she is good please because I once got told I was bad so quit and my god I regretted it so much, don't let her be the same. Show her she is good. Go speak to your sil ask her why she would be so cruel to a kid? Ask her what makes her the high judge of food. She sounds like a right cow especially doing it to a kid.

For one, she is a COMPLETE *****! You should talk to your daughter and tell her that everything really did taste great, and that your SIL is just a person who puts down others for unknown reasons. Also, remind her that there are people out there that are ungrateful and rude such as your SIL, and right now, at age 15 your daughter is a great cook, and she could be on top by the time she's in college and out in the workplace, no doubt. I know very few 15 year olds that can cook beyond boxed food. I still can't cook anything and I'm nearly 18. I may be young, but I know what it's like to be told that what you love doing is crap, and I really wish someone had come to me and said things like what I mentioned above.

write ur SIL a letter and slate her cooking (or whatever she thinks shes good at) to give her a taste of her own medicine

When I was 17 my great aunt looked at me square in the face and told me that a cook/chef or even restaurant owner was a sad excuse of a job and if i had any self respect for myself I would strive to be more. Like a doctor or teacher. I am 21 now and granted I didn't become a chef or even start going about owning my own restaurant because of her but i've come to realize. Her job is sitting at home and making people feel bad about themselves so they pay her to change it. But I've done better then my father and step - mother i have my own apartment and my own family and now I feel terrible because I didn't go with my dream. If your daughter want's to cook that is what she should do. the classes are hard and time consuming but if it makes her happy who cares. Someone needs to tell your SIL to shove it and let others live their dream. Instead of actually telling her to shove it let her know that if she doesn't have supporting things to tell your daughter then she doesn't need to talk to her. And someone should remind your daughter that even if she isn't 'as good' as she thought she was that's the point of schooling, or even experience at a restaurant and she should at least give it another shot before she gives up completely.

Do not take it lying low. Talk to your husband and have him talk to his sister. If he does not, tell him you will talk to her. As for your daughter, tell her that this is a challenge for her to be even better and that her aunt's opinion is not the one that counts. Google some examples of some success stories of people who were criticised and made a success of themselves, and proved their criticisers wrong. All the best

omg how awful for you're daughter i would just keep reassuring her and encouraging her to cook tel her not to let it get to her easier said then done i know maybe she is jealous of you're daughter because she is such a brilliant cook at such a young age. for all we know you're sil is not a brilliant cook herself

I have read through your long question and the many long answers. The consensus seems to be to tell your SIL to"shove it" and never let her in your house again. With relatives like her you don't need enemies. Be firm and stick up for your loved ones against this ***** !

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