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Being asked to host a jewelry party... while buying a house!?

  • My husband and I are in the process of buying our first house. We have it narrowed down to just a few & we're meeting with the mortgage broker tomorrow. It's an exciting time for us because, like I said, it's our first house! Obviously, we're saving every dime we can for closing costs & inspection & all that. So we're being el cheapo right now. One of my friends & her husband are having a hard time financially. They bought a house they couldn't afford & are struggling to make house & car payments. She decided to start selling jewelry at these jewelry party things. Supposedly, the saleswoman makes roughly $500-800 per party or something. She's trying to get as many of her friends to host parties as she can. Now, I feel bad for them in their financial state and everything, and I think it would be really fun to host a party, but we can't right now. I told her I want to get settled into our new house so we don't have boxes everywhere. I've told her this, but she's being relentlessly pushy still! Other than telling her "no" for the 9th time, what can I do/say to get her off my back? I don't want to lose this friendship either...

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    Obviously she isn't respecting your "no". I'd say keep on it, and just don't host one! You can't have a party when you're not willing. If you give in, you will only teach her not to take your first 9 responses seriously. I think if you just tell her sorry, but no, she should understand. And if not, her response is not your responsibility. You are only responsible for your behaviour, not hers. Putting up this boundary is a good and healthy thing. And congrats on the new house!

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Congratulations!!!! I just bought a house about 6 months ago, and I can Not imagine hosting any type of party while buying a new home. Just tell her "we can't right now because we are buying a new home and trying to pack up" if she doesnt understand than she is not a real friend anyways!! Congratulations again!!!! <3 ~Carrie

She's concerned about "her" situation, if 9 "no's" haven't sunk in, I don't see why they would now. You could try to further explain your situation and how stressful it would be for you to host a party while trying to settle into a new home.

Explain one more timeand say Your serious. For example"Im being serious, ___. We need to pay our mortgage and everything right now too. Try having someone else host, i promise ill host once everything is set."

i have been there before-jewelry, avon, home interior, candles etc. tell her you can schedule the party, but you may have to cancel due to your busy schedule & financial concerns. that way she is off your back temporarily, you aren't lying, and you warned her of the re-schedule. it works for me, and truly i end up having the party at a later date most of the time.

First of all, congrats on the new house! What a wonderful time in your life. Second of all, you say she is a great friend and you don't want to lose her friendship. Well, how good of a friend do you believe she feels you are to her? I can't help but believe she doesn't feel the same way about you or why else would she put such pressure on you? This is a no brainer in my opinion. I would never put such pressure on my friends or family who were going through what you are going through. Have you made this expressly clear to her? Has she ever bought a house before? Do you think she has a clear understanding? If not, please, by all means, express this in a clear and concise manner to her. Also, let her know that you have a definite understanding of what she is going through, but that you absolutely cannot help her out right now, no matter how much you want to. How about trying something like making her some nice baked goods or purchasing a nice gift basket of fruit or something you know she would enjoy and adding a card with a wonderfully expressed note that tells her how you feel? I'm sorry that this sounds rude and uncaring, but why should you be held responsible for their struggling financial situation that they put themselves in. It was not your fault. Good luck!

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