How hard is it going to be raising 3 babies? Should I raise her as my own?

don't lie to her about her parents...she deserves to know that A-she was born to parents who loved and wanted her B-A tragedy happened C-That they trusted her to your care D-That you loved her enough to keep her

Do both. Raise her as you would your own and tell her the truth when she is ready. She is so young I am sure she will bond to you as your own would. God bless and so sorry for this situation. I am sure it will turn out a blessing.

Oh my word! I am sorry! How difficult. The question you pose actually deserves two separate answers... Do you raise her as you raise your own and love her just as much...YES!! Do you raise her and tell her she is yours and not your friend's...NO!! Eventually she'll be able to do the math and realize there's no way she's yours and she'll feel betrayed. Not to mention the fact that your friend would probably expect more of you than that. Your friend chose you b/c you are likely the person who will not only raise her child as closely as she would have but b/c you are likely the person who knows your friend well enough to be able to pass on stories and information about this child's mother. Three babies is A LOT! A lot, a lot, a lot! But it can be done. Enlist the help of those around you. It can be done. Best wishes!

raise her exactly as you would raise your children. otherwise she will feel different than the others, and even unwanted. but as she grows, teach and inform her about her real mother. make sure she knows she's in your care, not because her parents didn't love her, but because of the real situation. don't shield her from what she should know. i'm sure everything will turn out fine, and she'll grow up well in a warm and loving environment. best of luck to you, you're a very caring woman.

I am so very sorry about your friend!! Let's hope her husband makes it and you can help him out. If that is not the case, it would be wonderful if their child could be raised by someone who they trust. That being said, I don't think you should feel obligated to raise their baby..there are a lot of nice families who would be grateful for the chance to raise a baby. I wouldn't raise her as yours. Even though she is so young, it wouldn't be fair to her or her parents to not know the truth..I'm sure if the situation was reversed, you wouldn't want someone to pretend she was the mother of your twins. You obviously have a big heart and care about your friends wishes. I hope everything works out for the best.. Again, my condolences

If she never said anything to you about wanting you to raise her baby if something happened to her, how do you know that she did decide to leave the baby with you? How could you even consider raising her to think that you are her natural mother? If Jane really has been such a dear friend to you, why would you rob her daughter of knowing about her parents?

Raising three babies will be hard at first but you'll get used to it. Def raise her as your own, as she will become your daughter and your twins sister. When she is old enough to understand tell her about her parents and that they loved her and tragically they died when she was very small but that they left her to you because she trusted you enough to be the only person able enough to care for their child and that you love her as if she was one of your own and that she will always be your daughter and then you should tell the twins about it too.... make sure you tell her before she is old enough to realize that she is basically the same age as the twins but not one of them. ... ALSO you should make up a book of photos of her and her 'other' parents (because you are her mum now) and maybe if there is an article about the crash, and the letter saying how she trusts you wit her daughter, stuff like that for her for when she gets older. Good Luck and know that your her mum now... and she will love you like one.

I am so sorry for the loss of your friends. I know it will be hard for you to raise one extra child but you can do it. First get paperwork done so you have legal as well as physical custody of that child. Very important because even the state could take her away. Or the babies relatives will come out of the woodwork to claim her because they can get a check from Social Security to help raise her. So can you get it. You can do this, get that paperwork. I had six babies and the oldest was just 9 when baby Sarah was born. Big job, lots of love. I want to add that any paperwork you have or get about this child, make copies to keep at your house in your own file. I found that important papers sometimes get "lost" so protect yourself. Good luck

I'm so sorry about your friend. You can raise this child and she can call you "Mom" since you will be adopting her. But let her know that she was a dear friend's child and her birth mother loved her very much. Contact a lawyer who specializes in adoptions too. Immediately.