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Why are my parents so OVERPROTECTIVE?

Why are some parents so overprotective?

  • My parents raise me so I can live on my own and not depend on them. When I turn 18, I'm expected to be in college or if I'm still living with them, I have to pay rent. They're going to buy me a car, but I have to pay insurance and gas and oil changes and repairs. Meaning, I have to get a job. They also don't coddle me. If I want something, I've got to get it myself/pay for it myself. They support me and are loving but they treat me like an independent person. Yet, I see kids at school who are so childish. In my grade we're like 15-16 years old and some of them pretend sword fight in the hallway or some girls aren't allowed to wear makeup. If they need something from a teacher, they'll have their parents go in and ask for it after school instead of getting it themselves. Most of them don't even plan on going to college, they're just going to stay with their parents and not move out. I'm not trying to judge them...I just don't get how the parents think that handing their child everything they want is going to make them successful adults. Do they really want to be taking care of their 30 year old children?

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    my parents are overprotective. they protect my brother worser than what they did me for some reason...im offended..but anyways... they protected me from like the dangers in society in stupid ways like not letting me go to movies by myself til i was 16. not letting me go on dates til i was 14. not let me a have a boyfriend til i was 14. not let me get my ears pierced til i was 13. not let me wear make up til i was 14. and not let me hang out with friends at their house or let them come over....im 17 and this rule still has not been lifted...sucks. but they are strict and overprotective and i hate it. but i know they do it because they love me and want to protect me. but everybody is different. my parents will help me when i become an adult but wont be all up in my life like they do now since im still in high school. they will kick me out when i turn 18 if im not going to college or make me pay rent. they give me the tools i will need out there in the real world when i get there and also inform me stuff from their experiences. some people would take this for granted and use it to learn and live on their own like me....some like the ones you mentioned above will just dependent. i am independent. my parents are overly protective and i have grown to deal with it...barely...but they know what theyre doing and going to make sure that their children are going to have a successful life because they are my parents after all. and your parents want you to have a successful life. so there are different ways to parent just the children you described are just lazy which is ridiculous....

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First off, just because a parent gives restrictions to their teenager/child does not mean that they are "overprotective". In my opinion, they are doing their job. To give care to their teenager, help for their teenager, and etc. However, that does not mean that they shouldn't give responsibilities, which seems to be what your parents have given you. I think it's great that you seem to be proud to be given so much responsibility, but then again, I think, personally, parents should give an equal amount of responsibility and care/helpfulness. BUT, what you are describing is something that happens when you turn 18, which is actually considered a legal adult, so it makes sense that your parents would release you and treat you as an adult. I agree, I'm a 16 year old female and I certainly see childish people in my grade, or even seniors acting like that. Heck, I even see people in COLLEGE act that way. It just means people mature at different rates. It depends on your environment, hormones, personality, and so much more. Just because a person turns a certain age that is considered to be the age of maturity, does not mean they receive this magical change inside of them overnight that makes them mature. It takes time, and it all depends on the person. And by the way, if you see a girl without makeup, it doesn't necessarily mean it's because their parents don't allow them to, have you ever thought that maybe they don't WANT to? I'm 16 and I never wear makeup except on special occasions (holidays) and even then I may not wear makeup. When a girl wears makeup it doesn't mean they receive a great amount of maturity. I strongly agree however, that parents shouldn't hand things to their child on a silver platter and give them everything they want. That's bad and they should have an even measurement of giving their teenager responsibility in owning up to what they want instead of running to mommy and daddy or their wallets that is.

Well I'm an only child female, my mom is really overprotective. I cant go no where by myself except the gym.My dad isn't so much.But I could wear makeup and tight clothes Those parents are probaly overpretective because there Christians, or just worried about their child

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