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How To Get Him To Propose?

How do I get him to propose to me?

  • I really want my boyfriend to propose to me when he comes home in September for r&r. We have talked so much about getting married and we know we will but I would love if he did it before he goes back to Iraq. I have always dreamed of how he will ask me and what it will be like. I want something romantic and something that means soemthing to us. Not just sitting in our room and he hands me a ring. I want like the "surprise" kinda gesture but I don't want to have to tell him how, when, where and those kinda things. So how do I tell him or give him hints with out making it obivous and just plain out telling him. Help :-/ P.S. Also we would love to go to a military ball but I can't find any information on when and where thay are having some. He comes home in September so that would be the time we would be able to go and we live in Asheville, North Carolina if that information helps any. Thanks guys

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    You're very young, it's obvious from the way you talk about things. You need to realize that reality is usually quite different from dreams and what you imagine. You're setting yourself up to get disappointed and to be angry at your boyfriend. How on earth is he supposed to know what you are dreaming about and make it happen? Simple, he CAN'T! There is no way on earth you are going to get your "dream" surprise proposal for the simple reason that your boyfriend isn't a mind-reader. What you need to do is relax a bit and let the proposal happen NATURALLY. However he decides to do it, whether it's over a box of cold pizza while you're drinking warm beer, it will be wonderful. Don't set him up to fail by getting carried away imagining your "perfect" proposal. There isn't any such thing. There's only the perfect guy and if you've found him, let HIM choose when, where and how he wants to propose without you dropping hints, nagging, or telling him. And as far as the ball goes, the Marine Ball is October if your guy is a Marine, but again, it's up to HIM to invite you. Those balls, the hotel costs and airfare get really expensive so maybe your guy can't afford to take you, or maybe he wants to go dateless. Either way, it's up to him and not something you should hint about.

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You don't get the guy to propose to you. Basically don't even talk about it because if he isn't ready it will only cause resentment and he may rethink the entire relationship. Just keep doing what you are doing and be a supportive girlfriend. When he is ready, it will happen. My fiance and I dated for almost 8 years before he proposed.

Look, if you want a proposal to be a surprise you're going to have to realize that you can't orchestrate the whole thing. You can either have him plan it and have it come from him, or you can dictate exactly how you want it done. You can't have both. You want a 'surprise' but you have a laundry list of what you want and what you don't. You're going to have to let that GO. You get what you get. I sort of get the wanting a fairy tale. Not personally, because I think it's ridiculous, but in theory. To answer your question - you don't give him hints. If you want something a certain way, just tell him. You will, however, be sacrificing your 'surprise'. Decide what's more important and then just go with it.

Ive heard....basically nt to pressure the guy...and dont chnge ur ways of doing things....!

Hmm... I don't think there is a way to make him propose to you. How long have you been together? My BF and I have been together about 3 yrs and we have only barely discussed a permanent future together. We talked about how long we should date before getting married (about 5 years is the max for me) and what we want out of our careers and if they would mesh well. Have you discussed these things with him? If not, you should! You may be surprised by the answers you find.

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