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Literally EVERYBODY I know is getting married.?

  • Ok, this just seems totally nuts. Every single couple I know is getting married. I mean for the past 10 years, almost no one has gotten married that I knew as friends. Now in the past 6 months, literally 12 couples have either gotten engaged or tied the knot. It's totally nuts. I'm not exaggerating at all. Anyway, there was already pressure for me to propose to my girlfriend, but now the pressure is extremely high. The strange thing is that it does not depend on the age of my friends or the length of time they have been dating. Everyone is marrying in the next 12 months. Not only friends, but several of my cousins. Here's a small sample of people: - male cousin (30) engaged recently - dating 3 years? - male cousin (27) engaged recently - dating 3 years - brother (28) married last august - dating 3 years - male and female friend (around 21-22) got married 2 weeks ago - female friend (30) got married 2 weeks ago - dating 2 years - male and female friend (27 each) getting married next year - dating 5 years - male and female friend (27 each) getting married next year (not the same couple) - dating 1.5 years - male (24) and female (25) friend getting married next year - dating 1.5 years - male (23) and female (24) got married about a month ago - dating 4 months - a male friend (30) getting married in november (dating 1 year) anyway, there are probably some I missed. but in the 10 years prior to that, none of my friends got married. it's ALL happening now. I know everyone is going to say don't compare yourself to everyone else or whatever. But I don't want to feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be. I also have a girlfriend and we've been together for several years and I know she wants to get married. Also, I would prefer if everyone doesn't just say "get married or break up". Obviously I know those are two conceivable possibilities. I guess I just want some thoughts. Thanks.

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    I am married, and happily, so I tell you this as someone happily married. About half of marriages end in divorce. I don't wish your friends and family ill, but unfortunately probably half those people you mentioned will wind up divorced. If you don't want to marry your girlfriend - don't. It is NOT a requirement. If you aren't ready, that's just how it is. You are allowed. Since I got married, which was three years ago, four friends have gotten divorced and one called off their engagement. One couple almost called off their marriage but worked their way through. Others are happily married. Many are single, or in serious relationships but not married. Everybody is different, You happen to be surrounded by married couples, but probably only half of my friends are married and I'm 28. Don't be hard on yourself. Do what makes you happy. And if you get married, people will just start pressuring you to have a kid. If you have a kid, they'll ask when the next is coming, and so it goes, on and on. You can't give into pressure or you will just keep getting pressured. Trust me - I have family down my throat about babies and lots of friends having kids, but I'm not ready, so they can suck eggs :)

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It's always like; out of the sudden, everyone starts getting married, as people in your circle reach marrying age (24-30 years old) , the wedding invitations start rolling. 3 years ago, everyone that we knew started to get married, we went to 18 weddings in 3 years. We were dating and it was at the beginning of our relationship, so it made for some awkward moments, jokes and pokes etc. we took it with grace and humor. With that said, 6 months is not enough time, 2 years at least is a reasonable amount of time to know someone really well. In a relationship there are TWO people. You said that she wants to get married, and you don't, so obviously this situation is making her unhappy. If she is not good enough to marry, then for everyone's benefit, move on; is not fair to keep on stringing her along if you are not marriage material. Good luck

Blunt

my thought on the matter is to wonder why you are wondering if you should get married. if you have a girlfriend you love and she wants to get married, what is the hold up? where are relationships supposed to go if not toward marriage? the fact that you are hesitant makes me wonder if you really love her enough to want to marry her. you mentioned, marry or break up....but have you really considered the possibility? if you aren't going to marry her and she wants to be married, is it fair for you to hold her back from that? that is really the bottom line, if you don't want to move the relationship forward to it's logical conclusion, then were do you want it to go? you can't keep her on ice forever.

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Your life is yours. You are not "everyone". Don't get married, or do anything else for that matter, because you feel like you "are supposed to". That being said, don't string your current girlfriend along if you have no plans to ever marry her. That is not fair to either of you.

wardrobebycj

Are you roughly the same age as all the people you know getting married (late 20s)? Well, if you're that age, and you've been with her for several years... then why AREN'T you marrying her? And yes, after about 2 years you should have a pretty good idea of whether you want to marry someone or not. I met my husband when we were 21/23, and by 23/25 we had pretty much agreed that we wanted to get married someday. It didn't actually happen until we were 28/30, but we knew we wanted to much sooner. Sorry, but I'm with your friends. You've been with your girlfriend a long time. She wants to get married. You and she aren't young kids anymore. You're old enough and been together long enough to know if you want to marry her or not... so what's the hold-up? No one said you have to marry her TOMORROW, but if you haven't decided whether you want to marry her by now or not, you're wasting her time. Remember, YOU may have another 20-30 years to find "the one" and have kids, but your gf doesn't. If you won't give her what she wants, then let her go so she can find someone who will.

Libby

Some coincidence. I think you need to get yourself to a place where you don't even feel pressure. This shouldn't bother you. So, others feel they're ready to marry, you're just not there yet, your lives are different in many ways and can't be compared. Besides, nothing wrong with taking your time and giving your marriage the best shot. Believe me, the round of divorces seem to all crop up at the same time too.

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