What shall I write to my ex to say 'I care as a friend- I just won't be in email or phone contact- Im engaged'?

no offense - but if you want friends, go be friends with a million other people in the world. why be friends with a man you used to have it on with ? im a married woman, and that seems pretty sick and suggestive to me. i would KILL my husband if i caught him chatting often with his ex girlfriends. i dont think ur ready for marriage. break ur engagement !

I thought others have answered this enough and then I read your part about being Pisces and feeling bad about deleting someone and I laughed because I'm the exact same way! Glad to know there are others out there like me too! Anyways, I think a quick email would suffice. Maybe this: "John, I care about you as a person but out of respect for my fiance, I'm going to minimize our contact. I hope you can understand our need to do this. Jane" It's brusque and stand-offish, but considering your man seems to get quite upset about this boy contacting you, and this boy still has feelings for you (or wants to at least), you may just have to cut him off at the knees, which is quite unfortunate. For the photo section, unless its a photo of you two kissing, or something that looks relationship-y, I wouldn't delete it. Do you feel compelled to delete other photos of old friends? Probably not, and since your man is The One, this is probably all you consider your ex to be, an old friend. On a quick side note, I'm not too fond of your man asking this of you. My man is relaxed in our relationship and doesn't mind (or pretends not to) when I go out for coffee with my ex. Tread carefully. Though I'm sure your man is a great guy, if he starts demanding you cut out more people from your life, and it's not because they are unhealthy influences (your drug dealer, or a friend who pushes you into drinking all of the time, etc.), please be wary. :-) I've had it happen to me, and thank goodness my ex was only depressed, not abusive, but it sure helped me lose great friends and miss out on some great experiences! Good luck!

Hmm, this is a tough one. If it were me, I would probably avoid the awkward e-mail and slowly let the contact fall by the wayside...however as I say that I realize how cowardly it is and that you have a better relationship with your ex than I do with mine. Simply, in your next email mention that your fiance is uncomfortable with the contact that you are having with him, and unfortunately, you have to respect his feelings and minimize the contact between the two of you. Then wish him well in his future endeavours and say goodbye.

Simply email him saying: No I dont want to try again. We didnt work out together. I have moved on and you need to move on also. This email is to inform you that this is my last communication with you. I am engaged to another man and do not think it is appropriate to communicate with you anymore. Please do not respond to this email. I wish you a good and happy life. Take care.

why don't you just tell him what you told all of us. Tell him you wish him well and will always think of him, but your contact is making your soon to be husband uncomfortable. He is going to be mad, mostly cause he wants to get back together, but quite frankly...who cares. You shouldn't be speaking to someone who still has feelings for you if you are engaged to another man. It's not fair to you, him, or your fiance. Just tell him that.

I think you're being more than fair to delete your ex from your list. I can understand why it makes your fiance uncomfortable. I don't know if I'd tell him anything. I personally would just delete and let him drift away, replying very vaguely or putting him off. If he comments on it, just tell him that you're busy and trying to size down on the contacts. A direct cut seems like it will cause drama. And tell him that the photo of you on his profile makes you feel weird, or if you have to, request directly that the webmaster take it down.