Our wedding photo album is ready to be printed. Why husband doesn't want to come with me to see it?

I sounds like a classic thing we do as women. The wedding album is not the issue but your getting angry over that to not deal with the fact that your new husband made decisions without consulting you. He assumed for you and didn't respond correctly when you questioned him on the decision. Had he apologized you may have felt different. I would go and do the book thing and get it out of the way. After, when your calm try explaining to your husband how you felt when slapped with the decisions he had made for you without consulting you first. He may understand and you can talk it through but first you have to admit to yourself why your really angry. As for your sister in law don't bother making an issue out of her- your stuck with her and u don't want to argue with your husband over things you can't change. Find a way to deal with her and still maintain a distance for your own sanity.

I don't see any tragedy in having her see the photoalbum, but it sounds like your problems with your husband run way deeper than who's coming to see the photos. Focus on the root causes, not the symptom. You are resentful towards him for several things, and you need to address these issues directly.

I understand where you are coming from. My fiances brother has a girlfriend that I can't stand! The sound of her voice makes me clench my fists! But no one knows that I don't like her but my fiance. Its important to keep the peace. So just be the bigger person while I know it bothers you to go and look at it with her, just suck it up.. it really isn't that big of a deal. I think the big deal is the problems in your marriage. Put some more effort into that and less in to worrying about who is going to see your wedding album.

hmmm to me seeing my wedding album is a big thing for the first time... and there is no way in hell i would be going with anyone that makes me feel uncomfortable.... the whole situation is so wrong. your husband knows your feelings about your SIL, he knows that it is important to you, he did it without your consent and now you are stuck. if it were me i wouldnt be taking her. its YOUR wedding, and its your time to reflect on your wedding day. I could imagine how hurtful it would feel having your husband not want to go. There seem to be underlying issues, Not to mention respect issues, so if i were you i would sit down with him and have a heart to heart about how you feel, because this is going to turn into a lot of resentment if you dont. if you find you cant communicate with him on a deep level, then perhaps counselling may be the way to go, better to tackle the issues whilst they arise, rather than to wait for them to blow later on, when it may be too late. So, in my opinion, of course you have a reason to be upset, offended, dismissed and angry. And like i said, if it were me i would be politely telling SIL that you have had to change the appointment and will show her the album when you show your MIL and everybody a few days later... that way you don't have her presence when you see it the first time. If hubby doesnt want to come perhaps bring your MOH or mum? Or you can always go alone..... Or just suck it up! Thats really up to you. But yeah, the issues here is you and your husband - so try and work that out starting now!

HE WAS WRONG!!! How loud should I say it. He's a newlywed just like you, but he doesn't understand the feelings of a female. That is rather obvious from your comments. He should have told the photographer that he would let you know the appointment was canceled and tell you to call him back to reschedule. He should not be making appointments for you, nor you for him. That only causes problems for each other and the other parties involved. The only thing in his defense is that he is young and is still learning. But with the attitude it seems like he has, he'd better wise up fast or he might find himself in big trouble before much time passes.

No man wants to leave early from the wedding, I am planning my own marriage right now and my future- husband wants to stay there all night dancing with me, also on the invitation we had a photo of us taken when we were 17 and the same shoot when we were 27 so it looks fine... And he was fine with it, even though he is not a very emotional person. Your husband, as it seems to me, does not want to remember his wedding day... The question should be; why? Why not remember a day you begin a new life with a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Ask him the question politely. Try to figure things out.

when it comes to the sister in law if you cant find a good excuse to get out of taking her bring along a close family member or close friend someone that will shut her up you are right to be angry it is something that you would like for you and your husband to be the first to see when it comes to the other things concerning the wedding ask him some afternoon or evening when when you 2 are alone and he is in good humour that you would like to talk about these issues rather than leaving but keep calm about it but it may be just the way he was brought up but if it was some things will have to change now you are married

Usually SIL gets very jealous and will even convince your MIL to drag you down eventually..and will even destroy her brother future because of that. Keep your in laws at the distance, don't make a big deal out of nothing. Get the album and don't show it to anyone, send it to your mother and never talk about it. Don't tell anyone anything about it. Keep the treasure for yourself if no one appreciates it. The time will show its value.. I'm sure your husband has many pressures comming from his family, deal with them in a smart way, always keep the smile on your face no matter what. Teach him to be happy..he doesn't know how to, never knew..

Wow, you and ur husband need to work out ur problems. you guys fight over petty things...and they are his family and if he wants them to see the album u have to deal with it.. and their part of ur life now so u gotta have to deal with them sometimes, and if ur sil is gonna use the photographer why can't she go see the pics.. Just be the better person and handle the situation maturely.. or talk to ur husband..