Wedding Planning - What sort of things should the Groom have a say in planning the wedding?

As long as you are both happy with the decision it doesn't matter who decides what. You certainly can't force him to decide anything. If you think you can then this marriage is doomed. Most men don't give a D*** about the wedding. He is right. It is a girly thing. So many young women have their wedding planned down to the last detail before they have even met a guy to marry.

You shouldn't "force" him into giving you his thoughts! And there aren't any rules about who should make what decisions. It's pretty common for the groom to not be super interested in planning the wedding. Let it go. Let your man participate as much or as little as he chooses. My husband chose his tux, our officiant, and what our vows would be like. That's it. He didn't care about anything else. We've been married since 1986 so I'll say that the groom being involved in wedding planning is not a predictor of a successful marriage.

My husband said he wasn't interested in the planning, but once I started making decisions, he started having opinions lol. Some men honestly aren't into it, some will offer their opinion and some can be just involved as the bride. Sometimes, it is just that they are out of their element and don't know where to start. You can't force him to do anything, but you can pick the date, the venue, the caterer, etc and just ask him his opinion on if you should lock them in.

He is right, that's not men business. He is NOT interested in daisies, pansies or roses; nor he is not even a bit inclined in the debacle of the difference between egg-shell and ivory nor he should be giving you advice on shoes, tiaras, tulle or petals. Do you want to know why? Is not because "he doesn't love you" or "he doesn't care" ; is because he is a MAN and men do not talk about chiffon or vellum, get it?. If you feel the urge to have deep conversations about color schemes. centerpieces, hair styles and nail polish looks, I suggest you talk to your girlfriends, BFFs and all gal pals alike, not a man, because that is woman's stuff. Want his input? Let him help you decide on FOOD, MUSIC, GM gifts and attire; nothing else, he just wants to get married and he didn't sign up to be flower designer or decorator for heaven's sakes. Get a grip. Good luck

The phrase 'what sorts of things should I FORCE him to give his thoughts on' is a huge red flag. You should not force anyone to do anything. There are some girls who would say you are fortunate to be able to select everything yourself without an argument about what king of cake. But this is bigger than the wedding. It is about your marriage. If you think you can change him or force him or boss him, only trouble will happen in your marriage. Im sure you didnt mean it and I dont mean to be harsh but stop and reflect a moment on this dynamic. Get an etiquette book, show him the grooms jobs ( rehearsal dinner, groomsmen outfits if you are having any,) and so forth so he will have in black and white the jobs he has to do and the rest you can enjoy doing without forcing him into them. A lot depends on who is paying also. It used to be mostly brides parents but today, anything goes. So who pays has more say.

It is YOUR day, as well as your parents day, and if your fiance doesn't really care that much than that's all the better because you can get whatever you want. Your fiance is marrying you, not the wedding decorations and flowers. And like the other answerer said, you can't force him to do anything.. Good luck and congratulations!

Well, he's right: Usually guys don't care about the wedding planning. But however much of the wedding they care about, I'm not to say. Some may only care about the little details, while others don't care at all. Apparently, that's the category your fiance falls under. My fiance, on the other hand, seems to only care about the big details--the location, venue, guest list, dinner menu, colors, and entertainment source (band, orchestra, DJ, dancers, singers, etc.). Small things like the centerpieces and flower bouquets don't intrigue him. Anyway, if your fiance doesn't like something about the wedding, he should speak up. You two have a real live marriage coming up soon and if he's "shy" around you, obviously he's not ready for marriage. So just continue planning your wedding and stop pushing him to say something--if he wants to say something, he will. It's obvious he truly doesn't care.

first of all, you should never try to force him to do anything. traditionally, it is up to the groom to decide things like who his groomsmen and best man will be, which of his friends and family he wants invited to the wedding, type of wedding clothes and boutonniere he will wear, honeymoon location, rehearsal dinner location, and what kind and style of wedding ring he wants you to buy him. it is wise to tell him of your plans as you go along and listen to his opinions and imput. it is probably only that he has no idea how weddings end up coming to pass so doesn't really know what to tell you about anything. you should recruit some help from your bridal attendants, especially the maid of honor, who can really help with the planning details. also your mother if she is available to you and you have a good relationship with her. you can also think about hiring a wedding planner to help you as well. but don't expect too much from your guy until you get started. he will become more interested as the process goes along. be sure to get him involved with the food tasting and cake tasting part. they always love that.

He should help you out even if he doesn't claim to have an opinion! If nothing else, he should help pick a date. It has to be convenient for both of you, and also a good time for your family and friends. We picked labor day weekend of next year so that people have time to travel. You shouldn't have to do everything alone.