Why am I getting so many invites to connect?

Getting married in December when should save the dates and invites go out?

• I'm getting married December 18th 2010 and was wondering when save the dates and the invites should go out. I was thinking the save the dates need to go out at the end of July and the invites in September. Would that be right or should they have all have gone out by now?

• Answer:

  Save the Dates would go out around the end of June. Although you really don't need them ... remember that anyone who received a Save the Date must also get a wedding invitation, and you will most likely amend your original wedding list before you send out the invitations. By sending out Save the Dates, you may be stuck inviting certain people that you would've otherwise taken off your list. September is WAY too early for the wedding invitations to go out. It depends on when your caterer needs a final head count, and you need to give yourself a week or two to wait for late replies and to call people who never replied at all. I would personally send them out about eight weeks ahead of time, and give everyone four weeks to reply. So send them out around October 18 and give a reply date of November 18. Unless your caterer needs more than a month's notice for the meals (but I doubt it - most caterers need anywhere from four days to two weeks, tops).