How to get rid of my anxiety?

Why am I so obsessive? How can I get rid of this anxiety?

• Ok. I'm going to admit it. I guess I'm obsessed with my boyfriend. I have no friends of my own, everyone I know I know them through him I have been with him for almost 4 years now. He is the same age as me, we are both 19. I worry all the time that something is going to happen to him. He goes out in the night for bike rides with his friends and this worrys me sick. I have terrible thoughts of his phone being off and his friends phones being off and him disappearing and me having no idea where he is. I have panic attacks about this. I see him every day, if you like my life revolves around him. I think the anxiety started the first time he was arrested and I didn't hear from him for about 5 hours, his phone was off, nobody knew where he was. My anxiety hit the roof after this. I felt as though I had almost lost him and when he was back I was so greatful that he was alive? I assumed that I would never see him again at the time. This then happened again a few weeks later. He disappeared and had been arrested again. The anxiety was worse. He returned and again the emotions I had were overwelming. I can't control what he does and I don't want to. But when he goes out at night like this it makes me ill. He doesn't REALLY know how bad it makes me but he does know that I have anxiety but he does what he chooses. Though we have been together for so long it's embaressing to explain this to him that I am freaking out and having panic attacks over this stuff. I already call him all the time, every couple of hours. He knows I'm not going anywhere. I just don't know what to do. I have never told anyone in real life, can anyone help me? Also when I am with him I still have anxiety but it revolves around something else for exaple I have to keep checking my bag that I havn't lost something important and I also have anxiety that I am going to go deaf or blind?? These anxietys don't occur when I am away from him because 99% of my thoughts are focoused on him

• Answer:

  This may sound drastic but he may not be the right guy for you. You are young and four years is a longtime to be in a relationship so it can be difficult to end it but you really need to consider all options. You mention that you anxiety problems increased when he got arrested and then he was arrested again (what the????). If your boyfriend is turning into a career criminal im not surprised you have anxiety issues. He is the cause of the anxiety so you need to get away from him, also how long will he put up with the constant calls and clingyness. You sound like a nice girl and could do a lot better, if leaving him is to much then get yourself down to the docs, a few counselling sessions or going on an anti-depressant for a bit may help in the short term.