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People think im so dopy and laid back..how can i care more about things?

  • Im 26, female and have always been really dopy or at least given that impression off. People at school always laughed at my mistakes etc and said that i didnt know what was going on half the time conversations and girl talk bored me though so i just daydreamed through stuff lol. Im 26 and still never had a bf im just very laid back and people say that i look like i dont give a s*** about things my mums has always said i dont bother with my appearance cause im happy to go out in jeans and t shirt etc. I got rated the least attractive girl at college once but its weird i dont care cause im happy with how i am and being a loner etc...ive always been an only child maybe that had something to do with it ive not really got any social skills plus i cant be bothered anyway. Ive started a nursing course in mental health and im enjoying it but the other girls on my course including a 39 year old woman (who are not really friends) love to ask me stuff so they can laugh at my answers. They ask me about guys etc and ive not a clue what to say lol. Someone said that they dont know how im passing my placements cause i didnt even know who the consultants were called, then someone else said 'leave her alone she doesnt even know what day it is' but guess i didnt need to in order to pass. Some other girls on the nursing course who are nicer say they dont know how i pass exams as im so quiet and laid back as some of them are failing. I guess i want to be normal but ive never really been on the same wavelength as others and lived in my own world. It sort of worries me that im passing my course as i'l be qualifying as a nurse in 2 years and will appear like i dont have a clue about things. Just wanted advice/opinions how can i make people think that im not dopy? sounds stupid but i hate giving out that impression but its just how i am.

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    I think it's great you are so satisfied with your life and body. I wish more people were that way as so many complain non stop about everything in their lives going wrong. I think you will make a brilliant nurse who will be calm and peaceful and that's exactly what many sick and frightened patients need. You are passing your course and that's what counts not what other students think, as you point out some of them are failing! You don't need to prove to other students that you are not dopey! Just keep being yourself. Good luck

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u need 2 stress a little bit

Look, I don't know if this will help- It's a little story that happens to be true. There was a girl at the last school that I attended who was, as far physical appearances goes, a young Marilyn Monroe. As far as her behaviour went she was very much in the mould of the cartoon character " Betty Boop ". Now most of the other pupils treated as though there was something wrong with her-as if she was some kind of simpleton-you know the guys trying to 'cop a feel' and the girls just being plain bitchy with her-it didn't seem to bother her. Do you know why this was? It was because when it came to mathematics-she couldn't be touched-she was not just streets ahead of everyone else, she was in the next town-absolutely brilliant. Yet when the maths class was over she went back to how I first described her as being. She went on to better things. You need to ask yourself just why are these people saying these things to you, what is it that motivates them? I can't help but think that what it is that causes them to behave in this way is insecurity on their part. From the way that you describe yourself perhaps you come across as being insouciant-this can be disconcerting for some people. At school I used to go around with a very laid-back attitude-not because I was particularly laid-back, but rather I was taking so much medication for a condition I was suffering from, it was a minor miracle that I managed to remain conscious! So it's how other people, with their petty prejudices, see you that affects the way that they deal with you. A statement of the 'bleedin' obvious' I know and the way that you may be able to alter their attitude is by being very subtle and slightly aloof in your responses to them.

I would try doing some volunteer work. Do some work for a cause that you really care about. Maybe volunteer at a homeless shelter, answer calls for suicide hotline or maybe volunteer at a rape crisis center. Find something you are passionate about. I think while helping others you'll find a cause you're passionate about. Another thing, with the comment about not knowing what day it is, you could always reply with a joke. Try not to let it get under your skin. Reply with, "They day changes every 24 hour" and give them a smile. Find something that makes you happy and something you are good at; I think it'll increase your self-confidence. I hope I've helped and I hope things get better =]

all of this sounds like a symptom of laziness or a side effect of obesity

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