How to i stop hating myself and build my confidence and self-esteem?

all u have to do is just trust yourself.....dont mind other people that say to you some negative comment about you just think about god created u and he will help u from ur problem <(^.^)>

I recommend you check out this social networking community called LetsReflect.com. There are people there going through situations similar to yours. They are great for advice and encouragement. The process of Self Reflection has truly changed my life….here’s my profile. http://www.letsreflect.com/profile.php?userid=6 This is a journey….not a quick fix. The trick is staying positive and surrounding yourself with positive people. You are capable of great things! I believe in you. Best of luck.

Stop cutting and hating yourself! Maybe you should think about seeing a doctor, they should be able to subscribe some anti-depressions.

Get rid of your self limiting belief system, and recognise that you are allowing the negative side of your mind to hold you back from progress in these areas. Re-program your emotional responses. Hate is a strong term; reduce it to: "I dislike myself, and my life, at present". This allows more for the possibility of change. Realise, and accept that YOU are the one who programmed your mind, and that YOU have the ability to re-program it. When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progress. Having identified and labelled it, visualise a large red "STOP!" sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. Replace such thoughts with positive affirmations of your choice, like: "I may not be perfect, but I'm doing the best I can, right now". See the tips at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris section 2, particularly those in the MENTAL-HEALTH-ABC and CONQUERING STRESS websites. Make a conscious commitment to being positive, and optimistic, even if it is apparently unrealistic, or inappropriate, because of the benefits it will provide, later on. WORK, to change yourself into someone you can think much better of. See sections 38, and 47, and volunteer, even from home, at first, to provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I (insert activity here)". As one insightful (paraphrasing poetically) person put it: an affirmation, without foundation is mere mental masturbation. I have recently encountered another opinion, however, which is that, just as it is important to build a house on a solid foundation, so it is with self esteem. Learn to forgive yourself for your past mistakes, and failures, or inadequacies. Accept that you, too are just a human being, with the frailties, insecurities, and tendency to err, occasionally, that the rest of us have. That is the beginning of self love, self acceptance, and self esteem. Read: "Lift your mood now." by John D Preston, Psy.D. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland. CA, & "Feeling Good - the new mood therapy" by David D. Burns, M.D., from your bookstore, or Amazon.com You can also learn to use the EFT, in section 53, several times daily: "Even though I dislike myself/my current life situation, I deeply and completely accept myself". Consider taking up yoga, or t'ai chi. There's another simple technique to beating self-hatred. Stand in front of a mirror, and write down a list of your good qualities, and on a separate page, write your bad qualities.

Sorry to hear you feel that way. You need to make some changes. Little by little things will change and you can learn to love yourself and respect yourself. First you need to seek some help, there is an underlying issue that trigged these feelings. replace negative thinking with positive (even though you don't feel like it) you will see the changes. So when you look in the mirror and see all the things wrong with you say out loud I am good looking, I am healthy, I have worth. Say the positive thing. Over time you will re programe your thinking and confidence will beam out of you. You have to be committed to it but if you want change enough it is possible. It will be trial and error but worth trying. Think positive thoughts about yourself. Focus all your attention on your strengh, Give no power to the negative. All the best. Take care.