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How can I better deal with grief after losing my sister and do well in RN school?

  • I'm a single mother to a 4 year old. I work as a secretary a couple days a week and go to nursing school full time. I just felt like I was starting to get over the break up of my long-term relationship (10 years) with my son's father (that happened 2 years ago)... when my little sister kills herself. I was on winter break from college when this happened. It took her 5 days to die in the ICU after an overdose of Tylenol. For a while there we thought she was going to make it, but then she fell unconscious and and ended up with brain damage and then died when the plugs were pulled a few days later to donate her organs. She was 25. I'm wrought with guilt. We hadn't been hanging out a lot over the last several months of her life because we got into a petty fight about something and also because I was so busy with school, work and everything. I saw signs and she called me in the weeks before her death a couple times and I tried to talk with her and listen (at 3 am) but I guess I didn't do or say the right things. We buried her 5 days before school resumed. I thought I was coping okay, but find myself unable to concentrate well and retain information. I failed my first test because I didn't study. Every time I tried my mind would wander and I just couldn't get myself to do it. I can still do well if I buckle down but I find myself depressed and unable to DO IT. I NEED TO GET THROUGH NURSING SCHOOL and do well. I'm a single mom and I have no other options right now. I was VERY lucky to have gotten selected for the program I got into. It's not something I can put off until later. The secretary job I work at only pay $12/hr and I can't make it on that. My ex doesn't pay child support and is now a drug addict. How can I move forward and focus on school? Any tips on dealing with grief in ways that help one to be productive and happy all the while? Anything I can do to help my memory? My energy level? My ability to get a good nights rest?

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    A good concler will help. Also know she is alive in heaven, so when you get sad , just remember that God is taking good care of her and you will see her again one day......

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The first thing that you need to do is sue your ex for child support. If he can't pay, he will go to jail. That will help him and give you back a feeling of power. You are more angry at your sister right now than you are willing to accept. It really pisses you off that she checked out like that. Your instinct is to slap the crap out of her, but you can't. Focus that anger on your ex and watch him go in and out of prison for non-payment. There is no such thing as a single mother, unless you got pregnant in a lab. If a man was involved, make him step up and pay. This will help you feel 'in control'. Your sister took that away from you (which is one reason to be pissed at her). My brother in law killed himself (.22 caliber to the heart) when my son was one month old. I saw what it did to my wife and I hate him for it. He's a selfsh prick. He never even saw his nephew. Don't feel guilty or sorry for the people who check out early, YELL at them. Then take it out on others.

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