Please help! I desperately want to be confident and stop being so shy, what can I do?

Stop caring about what people think, this means your parents, your friends, and all those around you. Find people you like and hang out with them but don't change into them. Don't have a 'click' and never stop to hear the local ***** preach. Find out who you are, and stick with it. You are who you are, whether you follow my advise or not. Everyone is generaly the same to you either way, but you yourself will feel better.

Well when your go to university you might meat new friends and don't be scared of interview just think of happy things

Steps you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the smart side of things? Are you always there for your friends? Find your passion. Whether it's baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musician, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you'll be enjoying your progress. Choose a role model, whether someone close to you, or someone famous. Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and/or spiritual. Work towards acquiring those. Don't think about yourself too much. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others may perceive you. Instead, focus more on making other people happy, and that will build your confidence as other people start enjoying your company. Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well). Know that you have important things to say and do. When you feel strongly about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people. Be yourself. Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet. Don't abuse your body, don't overload it, and don't deny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don't obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must and i say MUST value yourself and understand that your well-being is important. Work out. This is a real fast change. The gym can transform even the last geek. It will help you be who you are, and not be afraid of it. That's the real confidence. Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly. Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more "worthy" you could say, to talk to others be yourself. Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone--most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it. Celebrate your individuality. If you know you've got something special or different, then embrace it; don't hide it! That's diversity! You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier, stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn't be who you are. "What am I?" you ask; the answer's easy: You're a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning. Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven't done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well. You'll need to work on your posture. Don't slouch or slump your shoulders, nothing says "I lack confidence" more than a person who appears like they're trying to hide from the world. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you'll appear stiff and uptight). Keep your chin up and your eyes forward rather than looking at the ground. Make a conscious effort to smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident. You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed. Observe yourself in a mirror to make sure that you don't have a tense or nervous facial expression, because if you do others will believe you to be sad, angry, or uncomfortable. When engaging in conversation with others, make eye contact. Gaze into the other person's eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident. Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry or scared. So the best advice is to gaze into a person's eyes as you converse with them while occasionally shifting your gaze or looking around. Shaking hands can increase your confidence . When it comes to gesturing with your hands, keeping your hands far apart and your palms open makes you appear open and honest. Pointing with your fingers and nd bringing your hands closer together can draw emphasis to what you are saying. Don't overuse hand gestures or you'll look nervous and unstable. Avoid wringing your hands or touching your sleeves, as these things can make you appear nervous, tense, or even dishonest. If you're a man, have a firm handshake when shaking another man's hand. If you're shaking a woman's hand, don't grasp her hand any harder than she grasps yours. Put a little strut or swagger into your walk. Move like you have a purpose, and keep your knees slightly bent to avoid appearing stiff and rigid. Act confident, even if you don't truly feel it. After a while, it will come naturally, and you will feel confident in yourself! Also, learn to not care what others think of you. If you let what people say to you bring you down, you will never be happy. Only care about how you feel about yourself, and don't always take what people say at face value, because they may be jealous of you and are intending to put you down. Don't let them stop your progress, but stand up for yourself while acting calmly! Hope this helps :-)

Sounds like you may need to have a personal relationship with God. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: "Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen." You could find a Christian church and try it out. I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. Some churches have a weekly Bible study group and these are a fun way to find out more about God and His will for your life. God bless.

1.You will need to be able to relax. Find a quiet room where you will not be disturbed and set up your ritual or meditation area on the floor. Make sure the mirror is set up so that you can gaze into it comfortably. You may also want a pillow to sit on. Also, set the white candle near you, preferably on a table where it cannot get knocked over. 2.Light the white candle and begin to relax. Stare into the mirror, looking into your reflected eyes, and say to yourself: "I have confidence in myself.” 3.Listen. Any doubts you have about yourself will begin to surface. Address each doubt and negativity that surfaces. Ask yourself why you feel that way. Think about the answers you are given. 4.When you are finished talking to your mirror image, it is time to reflect on what you learned. Write out your doubts in a journal and think about how these doubts may be overcome or how they may be an exaggerated look at yourself. Continue to perform the mirror talk ritual as often as needed. you have no idea how long it took me to type this i really hope this helps :)

Hi, i can see there are many people with this kind of problem, but think positively, you don't have a physical problem which makes you feel shy but on the other side and about relationships most of the guys prefer their GF to be shy and i agree with that as there's no need that a girl has excessive pride to say to people that she's pretty. Anyway Look at my long answer here at a related question hoping that it will help: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjEgleLvx1PrK17_SGANfzPty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090810170642AAWQBco

read books on body language, people can tell that your not open to meeting them. Here's what I do, take all insecurities and squash them like a bug. It will work long enough to meet people, and friends will build your self esteem in the long run.

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I purchased the book because the title seemed very interesting to me. What a peculiar word, 'now.' A few days earlier I had watched an interview with Angelina Jolie. The interviewer asked what her favorite word was, she responded "now." The book has since changed my life entirely.