How can I become a better person and have better life experiences?

You are putting way too much importance in being "cool". Your probably looking at the wrong people whom you want to be "friends" with. Being a better person is about making better choices in the way you respond to people and situations in life. I know this isn't the path your wanting this question to go BUT its impossible to go through this life trying to make yourself happy or depending on someone else or something else to make you happy or "cool". Only the Holy Spirit, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ can fill that void in a persons heart. How do you get that you ask.....go to a Bible teaching church and get involved with a youth group, that's a start. I understand the desire of wanting to be "liked" and wanting to be in the "IN" group but that probably isn't where you need to be. Honest answer to your question. Being good and doing right is a decision.

Being cool or popular has nothing whatsoever to do with being a good person. It's better to work on being a good person than to worry too much about being popular. A side effect of this is that good people tend to have more friends and are better liked. First of all, you have to define what it means to you to be a "good person". Your response to this question is very personal- only you know the answer. For me, being a good person means: trying not to hurt other people, trying to help other people, and trying to act in a way that makes me feel good about myself. Notice I said "trying". That's because perfection is impossible, which is really a good thing. I try to do my best, but instead of hating myself when I do less-than-good, I use that as a lesson to do better in the future. For example, I have a personal rule that I never say cruel things about another person. Once in a while, I break this rule. That makes me feel bad about myself, but I stop and think about it and promise to try harder not to give in to this natural urge. Over time, I've developed a reputation as a person who people can come to with all sorts of problems. They know I will be compassionate, I won't judge them, and I won't tell their secrets. Since having fun is important to you (and it should be!) don't try to be friends with someone just because he/she is popular. Look for people who are like you, who are interested in the kinds of things you're interested in, and who can appreciate you just the way you are. It's much more fun to have good friends who are not popular than to suck up to people who aren't compatible with you. Find these good friends (they are out there- lots of them) and appreciate them for who they are. In turn, they will appreciate you for who you are. Your "insane insanity" is part of you, and although you may practice toning it down when you're in certain situations, don't try to destroy it. That "insanity" is good, and your true friends will accept and love you for it.

Treat people as if you've walked in their shoes and never judge them. Give everyone one shot at honesty and treat all with respect.

READ books about ENLIGHTENMENT and how to let your body take over and STILL the mind.........your problem is : you THINK too much.........you have to just TRUST yourself your BODY the SUBCONSCIOUS etc........there are many books on that sort of thing. How to MEDITATE and still the mind so you do not become too self conscious. There is no COOLER person than the one who is NOT SELF CONSCIOUS and is NATURAL and knows how to go with the FLOW and just BE!

You have a good question and I have a good answer for you. Get connected with God with faith, and you will live a great and satisfying live. God loves you, and you are precious to Him. The Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation, and qualifying us to Heaven. Just come to Jesus with genuine repentance and faith and you will be saved for eternity. Heaven is wonderful beyond description and forever without end. Never miss Heaven for anything of this troubled world. Life on earth is short and uncertain. Get right with God before it is too late. Best wishes for happiness and Heaven! (www.soon.org.uk)

It sounds like the age old question, "How do I become popular!?" The fact is, there isn't any secret to becoming well liked or popular. It's a simple as being a nice person. Be kind to others, be willing to help out/be a team player, but don't let people take advantage or walk all over you. And try to have a positive attitude (which I know is almost impossible sometimes) but sometimes it's better than swimming in negativity. And here's a little secret for you: bad people.......don't worry about being better. they just don't care. It's what is part of making them a bad person. The fact that you're concerned with being a better person and bettering yourself shows that you are, in fact, a good person. Maybe you just don't have the kind of people around you that appreciate someone like you!