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Please take the time to 2 reai dont know who i am anymore!feels like im getting by in life by acting who i am.?

  • please help me. im 18...this has been going on for too long now and its getting worse as i get older. im naturally a disiplined, creative person, and all i ever wanted in life was to do well, but as i get older my mental health is causing me to fail. both mentally, emotionally and phsically. i dont know who i am anymore, im not happy with myself, i used to be confident in my own skin, happy with my looks and i used to know i had talent, but now im losing it all, as well as myself, friends, emotions and ambition. because i dont know myself i cant connect or interact with anyone properly anymore. i use to be funny, smart, happy, popular, i was brought up in the performing arts world, but since school ive dropped two courses at college because i felt too advanced for the dance course, and then had a year off, which led to a year of depression, binge eating, isolation which made me lose myself, delusions, from lack of touch with reality, and loads more. as well as all this, i had the constant pressure from home, my strict dad constantly on at me, noone knowing that i felt suicidal, and not being able to speak out, because ive never spoken much in my own home. i know my family better than they know me. so then i enrolled a second time and did a fashion course, but i wasnt being myself, i had all these false beliefs, and i was staying up all night doing endless amounts of work, then throwing it in the bin, because i wasnt happy with it. i would binge eat in the public toilets, and waste money on clothes that i never wore. i now regret dropping college but i didnt do it out of stupidity, i did it because of the problems i was having, regardless of my intelliegnce. now im working as a waitress and its even worse, because im at my worst point, and i have to talk to people all day. i feel like most of the time im acting, and that is the person people have got to know, but its not me.there was a point where each day i felt reborn, and i feel like a differnt person each day. ive had many differnt personas my whole life, and now im not any of them. ive been known as shy, confident, funny, serious, laidback, all by different people, and the hardest part is when all of those people i know come together with me, and im faced by choosing who i am, and trying not to confuse them who ive portrayed myself to be. sometimes i have so many thoughts, and sometimes i feel empty, and dumb. i feel like im just watching the world pass by me, and not living it myself. i think ive been going through a phscotic episode too recently. my moods keep changing too hourly, daily and weekly causing my personas to change, making my perspectives of how i see the world change, making it hard for others to understand and get to know me. sometimes im majorly depressed, and hopeless,and then ill be ambitious, smart, and happy, then irritable, then when im faced by situations that involve people it can make me angry because its like they are messing my head around. when some of these emotions mix, they can turn me into a horrible person, and people will think im getting annoyed because of something they have said, but i can never get them to realise that im not angry with them, im just angry! please help me, i could go into so much more depth, so many things that may have caused me to turn out like this, but i just want to sort this out...........ive lost the enjoyment of life. i cant move on with my life until i sort myself out because its holding me back....i have no sex drive, i dont fancy boys anymore, sometimes i cant even function properly, im even forgetting things..i cant even cry anymore because i feel like ive faced enough, to make me strong but its made me cold and emotionless.....im just crumbling to pieces....:(

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    My dearest Camilla, sweetheart you are a real person with real emotions and real problems. I know it is cliche to say we all go through a time when we don't know who we are anymore and it is true but I understand what you are saying. Sometimes we just get lost. You really need to see your doctor and talk to them. It sounds like you are really going through a rough time and are depressed among other things. If you would go see a therapist it could help you so much. So you can sort things out and find out just who YOU are. As a mom of 4 that stayed home to raise my kids it was easy for me to forget who I was. Other than so, and so's mom or wife, or the team mom or the scout leader. I went through a really rough time and until I found the strength to talk to someone and work it out and find myself again I was miserable. Please go TALK to someone. Even if Mom and Dad don't approve, they will see in the long run it is better for you to talk to a therapist and find yourself than to live the way you are now. You mentioned your dad above but not mom much. Can you talk to her so you can get her support and maybe she can help you get the help you need? I promise things can get better but you have to be willing to get the help you need in order for that to happen.

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i think there are two things going on, firstly, i think you have a chemical imbalance and you need an antidepressant. secondly, you are facing "real" life , and thats always hard to sort through. please see a mental health professional for help. also helpful to know: all artists are a bit crazy. the trick is to stay creative AND sane. all the best.

Ok. You have had some responses. I want to ask you something. What do you really want? What ever the answer is - this is your choice. Within you is the power to remove every single fear and worry in your life. You have the power of choice. No one else can do that for you. Don't look at anything else apart from the fact that you can either stay like this or refuse. You can discover your own way to total freedom and its all within yourself, not drugs That is how powerful you are and can become - and you will then even be able to help others. I also want to mention that a properly trained professional in the right field will help you in this direction - - to deal with the biggest issue in your life first and then the others will be easier. God bless you

You are not alone. I am not trained in this area, however can relate to your personal experiences. When I began feeling these negative things, I felt like I was a different person out in the world because I had that secret. So many secrets from everyone, my depression was the biggest and of course had the largest impact on me. When I got married and had someone who I was committed to living my life with, it became much more apparent because there was someone to whom I was accountable for my moods, anger, irrational thought processes. It helped me see that it was not the world or people who were at fault, it was me who had a serious problem. I believe all of these things are symptoms of a great issue. I had to take myself to the hospital because I was so dangerously depressed and critically anxious. I was not admitted but it helped me cope until I was able to seek help. I have suffered depression in some form, all my life but the anxiety it recent. I am now taking imiprimine and feel normal for the first time, ever? I have never stayed on any medicine long enough to get full benefits-but this time I know it is not a problem that will go away and must be continuously treated. Please, seek help-you are too young to waste your heart and mind away in this spiral. You don't have to feel this way. Your potential is waiting for you. Even if you have to step away from everything for a while and check yourself into a hospital, you will have advanced care and treatment-plus it will alert your family that there is a problem they and they MUST support you. I wish you the very best. Please do not avoid doing something. I think the outcome of that is far more terrifying than seeking treatment of some kind. Good luck in everything and remember one thing, if nothing else. God is near. Turn to Him for guidance and He'll never turn away from you. Promise.

that's a lot to read,never mind feel,i'd seek an assessment with a very good counsellor,someone you can trust.

The first thing you need to do is figure out why your sex drive is low and try to help get it back. I was in your situation and it's not fun without being horny and feeling in the mood when needed. I also felt like my orgasms (if I would even get one) were really weak. Probably because of my sex drive. However, I tried exercising and dieting but nothing seemed to be working. I thought I was screwed. I then found something just as amazing as the vibrator. My friend at work told me about this stuff she took to raise her sex drive. It was a natural herbal supplement and was I lucky to of found it. Theres no side effects and the sex drive is just tremendous along with orgasms that are blasting. The stuff is called Hersolution pills. At the time I saved money on them at herenhancement.com What I did was tried out for 3 months and that was really it. I found taking them every other day or so was the best to stretch it out. After the months were up, I was back to normal with a beating sex drive and my orgasm strength in increased so much. Well good luck and I hope this helps.

Ill pay for u for now, but theres really nuthing i can say....

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