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Please, please help!! I'm completely in love with him, yet he almost scares me...?!? Please!?!?

  • Ok, well, I'm 16, and my boyfriend, Craig, is 17, and he's the lead singer in a band. and writes most of the music. I love their music, usually. However, last night, they were setting up onstage for a gig, and they were showing me a couple new songs, and... they kind of freaked me out. They were like... hardcore death metal screamo kind of thing. Their music is never that hardcore. Usually, it's more Fall Out Boy kind of music, but this was frightening, and terribly morbid, too. Craig has been through a lot, and is what most would call 'emo.'. I guess my face definately showed my emotions, because when they finished, Craig got offstage and came up to me saying, "Do you not like it?" I told him, "...It's not you. It's so... hardcore." I guess I sounded kind of shocked. We went back and forth a bit, with me telling him that his new music worried me, with him singing about dying and everything, and him kind of pleading with me "it's just music, it doesn't mean anything, baby. I swear." I kind of started crying, and he went to hug me, and I kind of pulled away before he could. I don't know why I did... I love him. I just know that he looked SO hurt. He said, "...You're... scared of me," almost in tears. which hit me hard, and I just broke down crying then, and he didn't really know what to do, whether or not to hug me. He said, "I'm sorry... I'll change it. Anything. I just can't lose you. I love you." but I just left. When he said that to me though, about me being scared of him... I hit me hard. I've realized I sort of am. He wears all black, is very emotional, has been through so much counseling (awful childhood), cut himself in the past, and can get quite angry (NEVER to the point that he would hurt me, but it freaks me out a bit. He's loud, and throws things if he's angry enough. I'm the only one who can calm him down.) and almost does scare me in a way. Yet I'm in love with him. Completely. He's sweet, and caring, and completely selfless. And I don't know what to do about any of this. I just know that I'm completely in love with him and that last thing I would want is to hurt him or leave him. No guy has ever treated me as well as he does, but my emotions are all messed up now... Please help? And for anyone who thinks he's just whining about not having a perfect life... He had a father who was a drunk and beat him daily, and blamed everything that went wrong on Craig. He has scars... both physical and emotional.

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    It sounds like he needs to see a therapist. Start with your school counselor.

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wow.. i don't think u are scared of him but scared for him bc u love him so much. ur sound worried. just talk to him let him know how much u love him and that u are worried and scared for him.

if he sacry you you shouldnt be in love

I think your reaction hurt him more than anything. Maybe you need to understand his music better. Talk to him. Say, "I'm sorry that I freaked out about your new music, but it terrifies me to think that you actually think like that. I've realized that I am kind of scared of the emotions you feel, especially when you get mad and lose your temper. I love you so much, though, and you mean the world to me. Can you try to explain to me what you meant by those songs, and how you feel? I think we need to work on our communication, so I can understand you better. I'm sorry for the way I reacted before." Then if you're still scared of him, or don't want to be with him for whatever reason, you can deal with it when the time comes--but do give him this chance. As you say, he's been through a lot.

I think you need to stop watching Degrassi so much.

Ok, listen, I had a dad who was an abusive alcoholic nearly killed my mother at one point... he was sent to jail my parents divorced and I haven't seen him in 15 years. I don't care what kind of childhood anyone had get over it. It's harsh, but it's reality... when he gets older (assuming you are teens) he is going to see how stupid he was being. I enjoy rock music not fall out boy or some crazy heavy metal... just nice relaxing guitar, bass whatever.. He is having a dilemma and I'm sorry he really doesn't need a girlfriend and if anything he isn't in love he is obsessed. I know the difference because it happens to everyone especially if this is his first love or yours or whatever. Just break up... I can tell from my own personal experience that it is a silly teen relationship and he will get over it. The cutting, and leading people on to guilt trips gets old and frustrating. The cutting is stupid and makes anyone look like an idiot. My fiance went through a lot he was a teen parent to twins and he never went and cut himself or anything like that. He needs to be a man, he needs help and he needs to focus on more like bettering himself than a stupid girlfriend. Sorry, but if someone loves you enough they love you enough to let you go.

Just do what every other 16 year old girl does.... let him get you pregnant , chase after him for child support and then meet a guy that will clean the mess up for you . A million girls can't be wrong the last 30 years .

Ok here is the best answer that i think i can give you. I think that Craig just needs time to himself right now ,to calm down. If you see a new person all of a sudden there has to be a reason for it. I hate to say it but is he doing drugs or on a drinking binge? If you think he is changing and this change is not fitting into your comfort-ability zone then perhaps you just need to be Friends with him and if he gets mad and starts throwing fits then i think it was for the best. He sounds dangerous to me and there is no real future with someone like this. Although he has never hurt you , if his changing is bothering you then it is your right to just call if off and be friends. I think he needs a good Friend right now not a girlfriend. And no matter what nice things he does or says , i think at this point that it is not enough. Do you really want to be with someone this unpredictable all the time? It is not good for your health, it keeps you upset all the time and causes you stress. You never know when someone like this could just lose it entirely and really hurt you. Better think about this . He just does not seem like the sorta guy you really want to be with. Sorry but i am telling you the truth.

ok Craig sounds like the perfect guy :) bit thats really sad. i would not leave him if i were u.

oh my gosh :( thats so freaking sad.

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