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What should I do if I have not received my college admission letters?

Military or dream college?

  • It has always been my dream to go to this certain college and I was accepted for this upcoming fall. My only issue is that it is OOS and the price is pretty high. For months my mom was telling me that I was forbidden to go to this college( she says it was her looking out for me). She basically came up to me a few weeks ago and told me that she made a decision and I would either go to the local community college or join the military. I had been looking at the military a while back when I didn't think I would get into this college, but when I got in I stopped looking at it. After alot of yelling from both sides I agreed I would talk to a recruiter. I have been going to the recruiter for a month now and my parents had me convinced that I had to do this. I feel like if I tell my parents now that I want to go visit the college they will just say no and tell me that I have already chosen, when in reality it was them that chose for me. I still really want to go to this college and I don't care about the fees involved with it, it is all I have ever wanted to do and it seemed like my parents were ok with it until I received my admission letter. I have literally been making myself sick about this issue and I just need to choose, but i feel like if I choose what I want to do I will let my parents down, because even though they have put me through hell with this decision, they are my parents and I love them. I'm not asking you to tell me what to do, I am asking about your advice and what you would do if you were in my position. Ps- I was just told this year that I had to pay for my own college education, so can my parents really say no if that is what I want to do, even if I won't be 18 until the Fall? I know if I change my mind with the military I have wasted their money and the recruiter will be pretty pissed at me for wasting his time. It took him a while to find me an opening so I could go to MEPS. How should I ask my parents if we could go to the college during spring break to visit and see if that's where I want to be? Thank you for taking your time to read and answer my question

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    Get a delayed entry on the college. They can hold your spot until winter or up to a year in some cases. Get a job, go to community college so no one can claim you as dependent then after you reach 18 you may have some money saved and be able to get loans or grants for school. The key is begin working so your parents can not claim you so you will qualify for more aid. Once you turn 18 they cannot stop you. It is your decision if you do not want to whole heartedly be in the military you do not belong there and service members you would serve beside don't want you there either. The military is a big commitment and decision (honestly bigger then college decision) if it is not your choice, you will fail. ADD: Reading your PS. . You cannot convince or conjole your parents into anything. Perhaps this is why they are treating you like a child because you are acting like one. IF they said they are not going to pay for rather then act like a child begging for a toy. Man up accept it and figure out how to pay for it yourself if you really want it. If you have not even been to the college how exactly is it your dream college. ADD II: Really, if you have accepted it then why the post? They cannot stop you from going to any college you want once you turn 18 nor at any age can they force you into the military. The question is since you seem to know nothing about the college how could it be your dream college? What is your justification for seeing yourself there? In short WHY do you want to go to this college. Why have you always wanted to go to this college? Perhaps that is one of your parents issues with it you don't seem to have a reason. What is your reason besides I want to? Is it the best school in the major you plan on pursuing? DO you even know what major you plan on pursuing (if not then honestly just do a community college until you figure it out or all you are doing is wasting money). Does it have an excellent academic reputation? Is there some sort of history with it?

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Who cares if you waste some redneck jarhead's time? GO TO COLLEGE. In college, you can make something of yourself. In the military, you get shot at. As for your parents, tell them to **** off. If you don't want to enlist, they can't make you. If it's such a big issue, get emancipated.

alright i think i can give you a pretty good idea what to do here screw your parents its your life do what you want to with it in my junior year i said i was gonna sign and in senior year i did up until the day i left for boot it was me and my mom at each others throats every time the words college or military came up and extended family wasn't around if you want to visit then get a ticket or drive there and just do it if you want to go to the school then you will find out a way to pay for it if you want to enlist then you will

I agree with the previous poster.... Also, if you cannot get a delayed acceptance, get yourself a part time job and work your way through college. If you join the military, chances are that acceptance will not be waiting for you when you get out. People go to college and take out student loans all the time... Just be sure that you work through college so you don't graduate with a ton of debt....I don't really understand your parents reasoning, but they know you and your situation better than anyone else in the world. Try talking to them again and maybe get a better idea why they are basically banning you from that college. Maybe there are better reasons you don't yet know? As far as the recruiter? He was doing his job, that is what he get paid for. Thank him for his time and kindly explain that you changed your mind. If that is not enough for him, sorry too bad. I am not saying that joining the military is a bad option (I actually think it is a great option, I am in the Air Force!) but if you have the opportunity to go to a great college, why not at least give it a shot? If that doesn't work out, then maybe you try the military again but I promise you will regret it if you don't at least try to go to college. Look into every scholarship/grant/low interest loan you can, and good luck!

GO TO COLLEGE!!! Find a college with housing and since your on your own you can get Pell Grants and financial aid. Make sure you tell the financial aid department you will not and do not get support from your parents with education. You are independent!! College ROTC is a option also. Set something up to go talk to a college rep. and set yourself up to exit that negative household. Go to college live in the dorm and do work study at the school to help yourself. I did like negative parents and you can rise above this be taking yourself out of the negative environment. Stay at the college and do summer schools as well. Do whatever it takes to get your education and you will make it, rent a room near the school and use work study to assist with paying for bus rides, train rides until you graduate!! Good Luck!! College Graduate!!

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