What is meant by external and internal barriers?

What do you think will happen with two people that are meant to be together but are not...?

• Lately i've been wondering if there is actually a destiny that we must fulfill. i dont really believe in this type of stuff but sometimes it is interesting to consider other possibilities and ideas. anyway, and one of the things that really gets to me in this area when i think about it is love and being with the person you were meant to share your life with, if you were meant to share your life with someone. what would happen to those two people that are meant to be together but just never even meet in their lives? or say two people that are meant to be together are together, but then break up for whatever reason and move in separate ways when they are supposed to be with one another no matter what, according to their "destiny"? and several things like those. and the reason why i'm asking is because i read a blog here and there about people that were once together and broke up, and then, years later are reunited and have been together ever since, like it was meant to be. i find that a little weird and one of those things in life that are just impossible to find answers to, if there even is one. but i find it intersting to talk about sometimes. any ideas anyone?

• Answer:

  You have to allow for the fact that "destiny" might be exactly what you are talking about NOT happening. Two people can be destined to be together, but then destiny prevents either of them from being together. A double-edged sword. As for your thoughts on two people who were together, break up, and then think they should have stayed together, this is one I can relate to personally. I was deeply in love with someone (and was actually making plans to make a life for both of us) when she broke up with me after being together for the better part of 3 years. I lamented for decades over "what could have been" and realized eventually, that our "destiny" was not to be together. That was a hard pill for me to swallow. My consolation is in being able to look back at the time we were together, and remember what she was like then, and then see her now (what she's doing, how she acts) and realize that she became something I know I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with. Have you ever seen that 'original' Star Trek (TV-show) episode where Spok is supposed to get married? He doesn't, and his girlfriend ends up going to another man. There is a line in the episode where Spok (talking to the other man) say something like "....after a time, you may come to realize that WANTING is more desireable than HAVING." A lot of what's behind your thoughts are in that saying.